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minor niggles

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 18:37

My relationship with dh is not great at the moment so I could be blowing things up. But so far this holiday which were spent partly with his family and than 1 day with my family.
1st night he moaned at me for breaking mil toilet. I only flushed it and mil admitted they are temperamental. Just needed a fiddle to reset.
When he was driven by another person and he was feeling sick the driver said. I hope it's not my driving. He sais your driving is better than my wifes. Thsn retold story in front of his family.
He opened one of my presents which included a drink and he basically said that version is not supposed to be any good.
He made a comment on facebook about not being able to go to football as had to spend the day with the outlaws.
Please give me some perspective as I am not thinking straight at the moment.

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tribpot · 27/12/2013 18:39

Each one individually is not particularly serious but taken together they don't create a good picture, do they?

Visiting relatives is stressful, what is he like when you're at home?

maddy68 · 27/12/2013 18:39

I think you are just being niggly with each other
I don't think any of the things you have stated are terrible
I think you need to sit down and talk to each other. Can you get someone to babysit, get yourselves down to the pub and sit and talk.?

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 18:44

I guess we do need to talk. Life is so busy at the moment.

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 23:32

Just remembered another one. Told his family he was so tired as the baby and my snoring kept him awake.
He of course wasn't the one cosleeping in a single bed with baby.

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tribpot · 27/12/2013 23:37

Why wasn't he in the single bed whilst you co-slept in the double?

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 23:40

We were given room with 2 single beds

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tribpot · 27/12/2013 23:43

Oh I see. So he's just griping about anything he can. Very unpleasant. Not to mention unnecessary. Did you call him out on it in front of his family?

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 23:43

Guess mil thinks dd should be in cot which was set up in room.

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SomePeopleNeedHelp · 27/12/2013 23:43

Is he usually like this?

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 23:44

Couldn't really as his mum and sis just smile and laugh indulgently.

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scottishbelle78 · 27/12/2013 23:45

Seems to have been getting worsesince birth dd.

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Leavenheath · 27/12/2013 23:51

These aren't minor niggles.

They are numerous acts of disrespect towards you.

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scottishbelle78 · 28/12/2013 10:56

I think you are right leavenhead. I don't feel respected at all and as a result I am losing respect for him. I feel like I am treated liike an unpaid skivvy.

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