I am not so sure what I am getting out of this marriage anymore. (No children involved.)
Sometimes we have heaps of fun(talking, having a laugh, watching, movies, going places) but many times I feel he is just taking the piss.
For example he has done this on more than one occasion. 2x this week. He will say he is going to make some food and I will ask him what and he will say and I say that's good. I'm hungry sounds great.
So later on he will bring a plate in and sit down and start eating it and then I say that looks good. I'll go get some and then he will say well I only made enough for me. I said I thought you were making tea. He said I didn't think you wanted any. Seriously, this is just shite.
So then he eats what he wants and then asks me if I want the rest because he isn't hungry. I was so angry then as I felt like a dog getting leftovers on the floor.
Also, he hasn't worked in about 2 years. He talked me into moving into some rural place and guess what no jobs! We have recently moved to the city and he hasn't done one thing to prepare for a job search. I have been working on my cv, studying interview questions, getting myself ready to apply when hiring begins next month.
I think the worst thing is his constant moaning and negativity. It is really draining and it is like a dripping tap.
I am supposed to be eating a special diet to ward off diabetes and was looking up recipes and he is looking over my shoulder at my screen saying steak, we can't afford steak. It is too expensive. I ignore him. He keeps saying it over and over until I just growl at him. Then he says I wasn't trying to have a go at you. I said I think you were.
But every little thing he is so negative. It is too expensive or we can't do that. I finally told him instead of moaning about how expensive everything is why don't you get off your arse and look for a job. Silence and then a few days later, back to moaning.
I want to say something to him about all of this but not sure what to say. Do you think he does this on purpose?