Regular name-changer.
I know no-one can give me a definite answer to this but would appreciate any thought and opinions.
Split up with my STBXH last year. Happy on my own, had a few dates and am in a very casual FWB situation which suits me fine.
A few weeks after splitting from my XH I got a message on Facebook from an ex-boyfriend asking how I was and would I like to meet up for a coffee. We have bumped into each other over the years so I know he is in a long term relationship, although he has never married or had DC since we split up 20 years ago. I told him it would be nice to meet up as long as his partner knew and he told me she would be fine about it. We went on to meet up for lunch on a monthly basis, I asked him why he wants to meet with me and he replied he enjoys my company, wants me as a friend and as his partner has many males friends he doesn't see a problem with it. We get on very well together, I enjoy his company too and there is never any flirting or innuendo between us.
Fast forward to a few months ago. We were out for lunch and something happened which made it obvious his partner did not know we were meeting (we bumped into a mutual friend of mine and hers). I was livid and told me how out of order he was. He was very apologetic and promised he would tell her. I told him I wouldn't be seeing him again unless he did and made it clear we would never be anything more than friends and he was insistent that is all he wants too.
He sent me a text in early Dec and asked if I'd meet for a Christmas lunch a couple of weeks ago, he had told his partner he was going to ask me out for lunch and she was fine with it. We went out and had a lovely time. He dropped me back home and then sent a text to tell me he liked what I was wearing. I jokingly text back that he could borrow my outfit anytime. And that was that. I then received a private Facebook message yesterday wishing me a lovely Christmas and he would see him in the New Year. I am being naive? Do I need to step away from this? I really like him as a friend, he is a scream and has a great personality, but am now starting to think about him. I am also wondering what is he playing at and why does he want me in his life when all seems good with his partner and he only ever speaks highly of her? Can we really only ever be good friends? Btw I would NEVER meet him anywhere which wasn't full of other people.