Contacting DN over FB, good or bad idea?

[Sianilaa]

To cut a very long story as short as possible, there was a big family fall out 7 years ago between my brother/SIL and everyone else. They refused to speak to any of us, sent cards and presents and letters for the children back unopened. I held out olive branches on the births of both of my children, got nothing but abuse and threats back.

I am glad Bro and SIL are out of my life, they are particularly unpleasant people. However my mum is heartbroken and misses her three grandchildren terribly. I know she cries a lot even now, and has sent her yearly Christmas begging letter to my brother, she hasn't seen even a photo in all this time.

Today I found my 15 year old nephew on FB. He looks so grown up. I want to show my mum but I wonder if it will upset her more to see photos. I'd love to send him a message and say how we have always thought about them and tried to contact him and hope he is alright.

Or would that he a spectacularly bad idea? My bro and SIL are quite vindictive and my bro has had very violent tendencies in the past. Need an objective opinion please.

Thanks

Show her the picture then she can't cry over not knowing what her GC look like.

I suspect your DM will cry about something else then.

Why did she bring up such a vindictive child? Why did your DB choose such a toxic wife? What went wrong in the childhood of your DB? I think your DM needs to work on that before getting in touch with her DGC.

Oh please don't sent a child due to take GCSE's in a few months, a message that could cause a whole load of drama. If you want to get in touch do so when the exams are finished early summer.

That's a good point ThatIsIt, I didn't even think of that.

Lots to think about. I won't do anything.