First Xmas- need sine reassurance please...

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It's my first Xmas with my beautiful, funny, clever dd's on my own...

Eldest is 3.5, my baby is 18 months.

I've been so strong this year but can feel mysf wobbling. My kids are so great at the moment and loving life.

I need to hear some success stories- they'll be ok wont they? Think I felt it as I tucked then up tonight. I panicked- it won't damage them it being just me, will it??

No, it won't.
I'm doing first Xmas with a nearly 5yo tomorrow - though off to her dad at 13:00.
We're going to have a lovely morning! She's old enough to verbalise her thoughts about it - perfectly happy, really couldn't care less.
Plenty of kids don't see one parent on the day (work, armed forces) and you wouldn't worry about that!
You'll have a lovely time with them!

Thank you...hope you have a great day tomorrow...

They're more resilient than us aren't they?

Create memories of snow flour boot prints and wrapingpaper doors with smiles and love.

All will be good x

We had a good day today...my eldest keeps talking about a 'party day' tomorrow :)

My heart melted when we put mince pie and carrots out. Just feel lonely now they're asleep. Wish someone else got how awesome they are.

Thanks inthered x

It's my first Xmas on my own with my two as well (a bit older, 11 & 5)

I've felt great until a week or so ago and like you I started to wobble. But the children seem completely fine so I'm keeping very busy and making myself smile when I feel myself start to panic.

Everything is always a bit different at Christmas, even without breakups to contend with. I think once it's over and things settle back down you'll go back to feeling fine again.

Keep smiling, you're strong and you will get through this. The kids will be absolutely fine.

Thank you xx
Hope you have a lovely time with yours...I remember your threads xxx

Mine too. Been feeling a bit wobbly and weepy myself for a few days.

They sound adorable!

I think the actual day will be a blur of presents and relatives and there won't be any time to dwell.

But yes, since DS has been tucked up, I've been feeling the same.

I am very excited to starting a new year with a new life.

Have a lovely day! 2014 will be brill! Xx

Wishing you all the best tralaaalaaaaa
X

Mamma - oh you big worrying thing! It's only natural.

My DDs are 9 and 5. It's my 2 nd Xmas since their dd
moved out though last year I had my Exp - this year no one.

I just feel a bit numb- going through the motions - presents stockings, mince pie and carrots for santa etc. my DM
Is here and never did any of this stuff when I was a kid. V poor, v miserable. And she just sits and watches me run around like a twat.

But I work hard to give the girls a good example of someone who mostly copes but knows what to do when I can't 'fix' it. You don't have to be superwoman just let them know you're human - you're DDs are at a fab age! Are you going anywhere tomorrow?

Oh and my youngest dd told me today that their dads new wife is No 1 and I'm No 2. Even though I was giving her a jokingly hard stare. Can I have a thick skin for Xmas please.

You are doing good hun though your spelling needs work

How you doing mamma?

Mine are 8 and 12; it's our 3rd xmas as a seperated family, the first was horrific, it wasonly 2 months after he moved out. we alternate xmas day in each home and we all spend the day together, me, exh and the kids. We have always been amicable and there was no abuse involved, so it's easier for us than so many others. It DOES get better; i have just come home alone which is a bit ouch, but nothing like last yr or the yr before. And your kids will honestly be fine x