To wonder if i am going crazy and being paranoid

[dementedmumof6]

Every xmas since my eldest now 16 was born it was traditional to buy my children new jammies for xmas day, today my children went to my stbxh girlfriends (been together 4mths) house and she had bought them new jammies.

At the insistence of my ex-sil we were only exchanging selection boxes for the children so I bought her children a large selection box each, but when she and her children came by today to exchange gifts she had not only brought proper presents for my children but also the son of my stbxh girlfriend who I had obviously not got a gift for.

her and my stbxh keep telling me that I am being paranoid and that neither the new girlfriend or either of those 2 are trying to make me feel bad or replaced and that everything i'm feeling is in my head .

But after today im beginning to wonder.

I'm sorry for rambling just need to vent

The new pyjamas thing is really thoughtless of them - either thoughtless or yes, done deliberately to wind you up. Your Ex can't have forgotten it was your tradition.

You must feel all over the place if this is the first Christmas post-split - try not to dwell on whatever game-playing is going on too much.

You have no need to buy your exs new gfs son anything. Ever.

I do get why you are annoyed about the jammies, and I would be too, especially as they have only been together 4 months.

But your children love you, you are their mummy and you will never be replaced!

Could the new jammies not stay at ex's house and they can have new ones at your house too?

wouldnt worry about it pjs come in handy all times f year not just for Christmas :)

New PJs on Xmas Eve is a really common thing now, and more likely to be a woman thing. Quite possible that she innocently bought them, and he either didn't think about it at all, didn't know til too late, or decided in a spineless way not to say no to her. All just as likely as it being deliberate.
Chin up, x

Yeah, doesn't everyone have new pyjamas for Christmas day?