Anxious Christmas - how do I relax!

[CareerGirl01]

Need to have somewhere I can share my feelings. Had DD2 in May - so she's now 7 months. Got a nearly 5 year old. DH has has drinking problems in the past - this year he appears okay - it's been a bit of a year but the last four months he has been booze free. I'm constantly watching and waiting for him to start drinking. We have four small bottles of beer in the house; they've been there since Friday. I am wondering - as much as I love him - how do I forget about the impact his drinking has had on me.

Why have you got beer in the house?

You don't have to forget about the impact his drinking has had on you. More importantly, he shouldn't forget about it. He's only been sober for 4 months, this is very early days.

If he was serious about addressing his drink problems you would feel able to say to him what you've written here. Having the booze in the house, and the time of year, is making you feel acutely anxious about his previous drinking. Truly, openness and honesty is the only way to get through this. It's not about blaming him or forgiving him for previous actions, the fact is his problem hasn't gone away just because he is now addressing it.

You might want to try this book - it's available to download for the Kindle so you wouldn't have to wait til after Christmas.