I've done something stupid, really stupid

[Whatsthefuture]

my EH assaulted me in the summer, causing extensive bruising on my leg. I reported it to the police. But the really stupid thing I did was tell my friends on Facebook. I only have a few on there because I only 'friend' people I know and some of my family members. I deleted the post as soon as I realised how incredibly stupid I was. But at the same time I also wanted them to know what an abusive bully he is. Anyway someone sent the post to him and now he has shown it to all his family and all the friends we had as a couple. As a result I have been shunned by our social circle and of course his family. I am devastated. Has anyone else also something as silly and rash as this? If so how have you coped? I've turned myself into a social outcast.

They are not your friends end of

Don't let them push the blame onto you for this shite

Happy New Year everyone. I'm not going to be afraid to stand up for myself and I'm not going to be worried about what people think when I do. Strength!

OP: Like every one else says you were not stupid.
Now you know who your true friends are.

Every minute of every day that passes is getting you closer to getting him out the house.

Best wishes to you.

I don';t understand this at all. If he did it why should anyone object to the fact it's mentioned? Surely it will make his friends see him in a different light which is all to the good. Keeping it secret would have been the sillier course.

I guess people like him thrive on his victims keeping quiet about his bullying abuse. He most definitely panics when you start to be vocal about it.

What an evil twisted piece of work he is. I hope you can have peace from him very soon.

I think that some people object because of and old fashioned sense of not 'hanging your dirty laundry out for everyone to see'. It puts people in an uncomfortable position and they have to think about an issue that they probably haven't needed to before. They don't know how to respond, so their default response is to be friends with everyone, because it's easier. I can understand this. I can totally see why someone would believe a good looking charmer and not a mess like me. They can turn around and say " oh well look at her, she's obviously off the rails and she probably has an axe to grind". It's horrible and painful, but I can see why.
After reading all your responses, I no longer feel horrible about what I posted on Facebook. I strongly believe that these things should be exposed.