Having to be mature

[Twingirlsrock]

Isnt it hard when you're married with kids to be mature in situations when all you want to do is just run away like your 15 year old self would have done.

I currently have 3 girls not well (one has chest infection, one has a bug and one has a cough) plus in laws now coming on xmas day who have recently behaved quite badly (so I have to say nothing when really I want to) and a husband who I just want to poke in the eyes for effectively taking their side and not saying anything to them.

I have done so much to plan and make it a lovely family Christmas and its all gone a bit pear shaped.

if I could I would tell him "up yours" and take my kids and the turkey elsewhere!

Anyway - rant over. Just SO hard to be grown up sometimes!

Merry Christmas!

And to you!

Try and sort it out - sit down with a bottle of wine tonight and tell him how much you love him and how you don't want it to be a bone of contention.

Or is that shit advice and impossible besides?

Bloody in-laws! The times I've bitten my tongue when I shouldn't have, and the countless times I haven't bitten it when I should have....t's just not worth falling out with your DH over.

I know it's easy for me to say..anyway it sounds like your doing a good job of keeping it all together, and keeping a lid on it all better than I ever managed for many years.

Hope you have a good one in spite of it all!

Thankyou misfitless. Your message really cheered me up x

Thanks!

Merry Christmas to you, Twins,

Christmas for many people is 'all about the children' (your feelings on that, and mine, are not the point here!!). So in your house you have lots of children -3 of your own plus the husband and the in laws who have upset you and probably know they have and if they haven't apologised it's because they don't think they're in the wrong, and if they think you are in the wrong and you haven't apologised -well then they shouldn't come and take your hospitality.

They are his parents -he probably feels awfully conflicted, maybe even knows you are right, but can't not take their side because it feels disloyal.

In your shoes I would put up with it all and smile, because your children are the priority. Keep your mouth shut and smile. Don't get drunk. And next year DO NOT allow them to come again. Make it clear well in advance that it won't happen again.

Good luck and I hope you make sure you have bought yourself a nice generous present in the sales, because you deserve it.

In my opinion, talking to DH won't get you far because he probably feels he has to side with his mum and dad.

I hope your children are feeling better soon.

Hope you clear the air with H and your dcs get well by Wednesday. And never grow up