Due to my past history (multiple exes cheated on me, occasionally with multiple other women) I'm not so good with trusting. This is my issue and I need help to deal with it.
I've posted previously about my difficulty being the high libido partner and the constant rejection that entails but dh has never given me a reason not to trust him. I do think he loves me.
He very rarely goes out, but Friday went out for works do and rolled in half cut at 2.30 am, and drunkenly confided that he would swear this girl he works with was hitting on him.
I dread to think what she was doing to make him notice this; at our kids birthday party in September one of the other kids mother's practically tried to Velcro herself to him, I know thus wasn't me being paranoid as other mothers were commenting on it to me. Aside from commenting that he found her annoying he was oblivious.
This isn't an isolated thing, it does happen quite a bit. At a friend's wedding a few years ago my friends work colleague was sat at our table for the meal and was practically trying to sit on his lap, my friend , sat on her other side did actually pull her to one side and say "you do realize he's sat next to his wife don't you". I really don't think he had been encouraging in either case, just trying to illustrate that he doesn't notice when he's being hit on. He is quite good looking but not really aware of it if you see what I mean?
Anyway my trust issues mean that I am essentially obsessing about this woman. I don't even know her name. I know it was him, one other, also married bloke, and two women from work that were on this night out. I need to get a grip, so please oh mn gurus share your strategies for getting over yourselves.