Advice needed on a sensitive issue.

[reluctant]

Ive changed my name for this as I find this upsetting and embarrasing at the same time.
Please be assured Im not a troll so Id appreciate some good advice and help
Be warned though this does contain a bit of tmi.

A couple of days ago I had woke just before my dh so I lay in bed waiting for his alarm to go off. When he woke up I smiled at him and he just stared and then eventually said have you just been playing with me? (IYSWIM). He was covered in you know what and it had obviously just happened as it was still wet.
(Sorry if this is tmi)
I knew full well I hadnt done anything as I sleep lightly. The slightest noise will wake me, even more so atm as I am pregnant and feeling a bit queasy still so Im not sleeping great anyway.

This has happened once before and I just forgot about it but this time it is really getting to me.
If I ask him he says he can never remember dreams, hes not into porn or anything like that. We have what I would call a normal sex life so why is this happening?
Could it be he is having sexual dreams and is too embarrased to admit it or could it be a health issue? Has anyone else had this happen to their dh/dp?

Im so upset about it.
Any views on this would be very welcome. If anything just to calm me down and assure me my dh isn't having mucky dreams about other women

so he was dreaming? is this his fault? do you decide what you dream about? can you control it in any way?

I've had a whole range of bizarre dreams - yes, some of them sexual, and with other men - but I certainly didn't expect them and they certainly didn't mean anything

I mean if you could dream about getting it on with people you really fancied you'd never get out of bed to face the real world

reluctant are you basically saying he's having wet dreams?

I wouldn't worry ; it does happen. After all he can't really control what he's dreaming subcousciously. If he'd be daydreaming and having a w*nk obviously that's different

May be you're feeling a bit vulnerable atm because you're pg and not feeling 100% hence maybe not wanting as much 'fun' as previously and therefore thinking he's not satisfied?

I'd say don't worry, you're pg, he knows it and he's had something to do with it hasn't he

I can't see that he's done anything wrong here, poor bloke!

no neither can I www

if you're really worried you could keep him awake by sticking pins into his arm

pmsl at capp

I dont think you can blame the poor chap.

Although I understand it must be a little difficult for you to understand. (Women dont have such visible erotic dreams....if they remember them).

Try not to let it bother you - its a natural thing.

Men have mucky dreams
So do women
Regardless of how active or fulfilling their sex life is, or whether they 'partake' in pornography!
Sometimes it is about their partner (or someone who in a subconscious dream-analysis way represents their partner) sometimes it isn't
You have no control over what or who you dream about...neither does he...so it doesn't matter...

TBH - Your reaction would make me reluctant to admit it if I were him - given that you are worried he is being subconsciously unfaithful etc

Im not saying hes done anything wrong and agree you cant control what you dream about but it just seems strange how after being together all these years its never happened before and its not our first child so it surely cant be anything to do with the pg.

I don't think many men who are sexually active come in the night with no stimulation but they frequently get erections etc. Just normal.

The other night I woke up and my dp was lying there all naked with a lovely hard on and I watched amused as his hand went to it a few times but then it just subsided. I was laughing to myself wondering what he was dreaming about!

Don't worry about it.

So its quite normal for men to have wet dreams?

I really really honestly did not think that they did.

Of course they do. Give the guy a break.

He may not even remember them afterwards - lots of people hardly ever remember dreams.

I'm sure I remember Happy Daddy confessing to such a thing a while back and it just happened out of the blue for him so obviously it just does sometimes. I've never had an orgasm in my sleep but have come very close a few times (usually when I haven't been having sex for ages though).

yes I have had proper orgasms in my sleep

fantastic

no effort required

Well like I said I honeslty didnt think that happened. Dont know why.
I suppose its like you say you cant control what you dream about so I guess you cant control anything else either.

I sometimes need people to point out the obvious to me.
I must sound so dim.

IME pubescant boys have them all the time. it gets a little less common fr gron men to have that end result but still think it is quite normal.

as for worrying about what he is dreaming about....it may have been you! i dont remember my dreams and nor do most people...i certianly dont think he is done anything wrong.

He was embarrased about it Im sure as he got straight up and went into the shower and when its been mentioned again he says he thinks it was me that was enjoying myself!

maybe he was just embarrassed because it hadn't happened to him since his pubescent years? Men can be funny like that

Men, funny, never!

Oh well
thanks everyone.
Feel better now.

I too have has orgasms in my sleep. Lovely but strange . Tends to happen if I've had no sex or lots!

I once woke up to find hubby fast asleep, giving himself a hand shandy