Upset my friend anout 30 mins ago and dont know what to do in 45 mins when we pick kids up!

[Bart]

She has been saying/doing little things for a while that have been pi*ng me off. They came to a head last night at a girly meal out when I heard her discussing a medical prob I have. I had a gentle (I thought)word today on the phone.

I asked her not to chat about my "secrets" plus I threw in a few "jokes" she`d been having at my expense that were wearing a bit thin and asked her to stop.

I thought shed take them on the chin. Initially she did and appologised but then burst into tears and put the phone down on me. I drove round to hers, she said it was OK but the body lang says otherwise.

What shall I do now? Due to spend afternoon together at end of school gathering.

DH not DS. I`d have been quicker to defend DS.

Sorry I read ds for dh, still not appropriate though.

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She should be grovelling and worried about keeping your friendship, not the other way around IMO.

bart, I am one of those people that has a horrible habit of joking too much about things without realising the other person is getting annoyed (well, I try not to, but I have a terrible sense of other people's body language and am very blunt). But I think your friend has been out of order. In fact it sounds like she has lots of "ishoos" of her own at the mo and is using you (and maybe others?) as a way of deflecting attention. I dunno. If she is a nice person she will realise all this and things will right themselves soon though.

Hope so.

She has had a bad year actually, lost a parent,one child ill (now better) and dog on his way out. I`m always there though. Not in ribbing way but in helpful supporting sence.

she probably knows that, but if she's like me (and I have an uncomfortable feeling that she is), she still needs to lash out occasionally. it is not fair and you were right to mention it, but i don't think you can do anything now other than wait for her to come round. you sound like a very good friend.

Thanks SP

She rang last night to say she wanted me to know things were OK with us. Then we generally chatted for a bit. I said I appreciated her ringing when the call was ending but I didnt appologise for telling her about the things that were getting to me. She never mentioned the origonal conversation either. Hopefully, I think thats that finished now.Thanks M.netters.

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