How di your dh deal with your "hormonal outbursts" after giving birth?

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i was very emotional after having ds for a couple of months, particularly the first month. Led to me dna ddh arguing lots and alot of bad feelings was created asi felt dh wasn't taking into account that i'd just given birth(very traumatic birth too1). he argued back alot of the time and felt he shouldn't be. i wonder how anyone else's dh dealt with these "hormonal outbursts"? did you all have gentleness and unserastanding or did you get shouted back at sometimes?

I tended to bite my lip, as arguing was the last thing she needed. There's only so much anyone can take though and I did snap back occasionally.

tip-toed around looking horrified and whispered loudly to everyone - it's the hormones!

Luckily, my mum was here for both babies.

So DH was able to go out for some loooonngg walks/drives.

DH was very understanding while i was being a post-natal loon! We didn't really argue (apart from occassionial shouting over the top of screaming newborn about how best to stop said newborn from screaming!) He was a bit of a hero really...we did argue a bit more once I was over the emotional wreck stage but well into the marshmallow-brain one, he got quite irritated with me being a dopey cow who couldn't hold an idea in her head for more than 5 minutes!!!!

Lucky you, jessajam!!

Ignored em til I'd finished, then made cups of tea.

I tend to have lots of similar outbursts regardless of birth status though, so he's well practised.

so most of you didn't get shouted back at then? lucky you!

no, lots of shouting back from dp .

Otoh, dads have got to deal with becoming a parent too and I think it might be equally weird (although obv different from being at home all day with the baby) to have your work life carry on as normal while your home life is turned completely upside down.

We were pretty much over it after the first couple of months, when ds didn't feel so "new".

it was just out of interest really to see how other parners coped. Dh and i have always had a volatile relationship but it seemd less so most of the time while i was pg, but then all blew up within a few weks of ds being born. Anyway i've made a resolution to try to change the way i behave when stressed and i arguments and,so far, it;s working. so we'll see. As has been said before it's amazing how people react diffferently to you if you make small changes to how you treat them

he is being very very patient

and kind

I don't think he even noticed a difference TBH

At first my dh just gave me lots of cuddles and kept telling me it was ok, it was just baby blues and it would pass but when it turned out to be a bit more than I think he found it hard to understand.

He has a good knack of giving me a good talking to when I feel like crap and it always perks me up.

Actually I think dh had more hormonal outbursts than I did

funnyyou should say that ssandy! i wondered whether my dh was suffering from some sort of post birth stress! until recentlyhe's been alot more grumpy than he was b4. he's not one to talk about his feelings but when i mentioned it yesterday, he said i might be right

the sleep deprivation alone is enough to send anyone mental. If you can both keep talking about it and make an effort not to bite back, it will get way better.

Interesting what you said about when you were pg - dp and I had such a fluffy relationship while I was pg (except for a couple of screaming bouts ) and it seemed like such a letdown when we got ds home from hospital and we were both frazzled and snapping at each other about how best to change his nappies .