Hi everyone not sure if you remember me?? Well its been a year now since I left DH. We are still separated and it has been a rollercoaster ride to say the least. You were all so right and the OW came out of the woodwork straight after we sold the family home and I moved back to London. EXH is still with her apparently but is refusing to reveal her identity. I did think of hiring a PI in case she meets the DC's as that's who fear for. As for all I know she could be some nutty woman. I feel it is someone I know as to why he is refusing to reveal who she is or it could be the last bit of control he has over me. Any ideas would be appreciated. I do feel a bit better than I did last year but it has been tough financially to say the least and bless them they do help out but my DP are driving me insane. They seem to be trying to exert control over me now as they obviously feel they have some sort of rights to my DC's as they assist with the childcare while I am working full-time which is also a nightmare as I am doing a job I really abore just because of the money and to keep a roof over mine and the children's head which the EXH refuses to do. Does it get any better, do things calm down at all? Will the Ex come to some agreement on when he is having the children not when it suits him. Sometimes I really think it would be easier to go back to him and try and mend the relationship as its tough out there on your own... Thank you all and Merry Christmas. xx