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Ex's new girlfriends moving in to my old home!

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Chocberry · 21/12/2013 10:23

Could do with some happy stories of how others have moved on as I'm feeling utterly shit at the moment!
My ex has told me he is moving the new Gf in to our old family home. (They have been together 5 months. He met her 4 months after i left him).The home we shared and bought the dcs up in.
Yes I left him (earlier this year) it was my decision. I had good reason to he had cheated and hurt me so much.
I still have feelings for him as we were together 13 years and thinking of them together is killing me.
I feel like I can't breathe knowing that our children will be sleeping in the house when they stay with daddy and she will be living there too. It will be like they are family and only at the beginning of this year we all lived there together!
The dc don't know yet but how on earth will they feel going to the house mummy used to live in and now another woman in the same bed etc!
I'm not sure if I will be able to get through this. I don't want him back but didn't think I would feel so devastated by this.
Does anyone have any tips to help me move on myself?
Has anyone experienced this and got though it?
How I'm feeling now is worse than he actual split! Can't stop crying. Thinking of them together all day long. I need to be strong for my dc but now feeling like I might have made a mistake, which is crazy!

OP posts:
Chocberry · 21/12/2013 19:05

I never in a million years thought it would hurt this much. I will sort the house out eventually. It's the emotional stuff that I'm struggling with. I do try to think of the bad stuff. I've wrote lists.
But I just keep thinking he made all the mistakes with me and will now be the perfect boyfriend with her. Upsets me that he could have been that person for me and the kids.

OP posts:
Chocberry · 21/12/2013 19:06
  • couldn't have been that person!!! Stupid iPad!!
OP posts:
beaglesaresweet · 21/12/2013 20:58

OP, he's not going to be perfect - no one is! he'll slip into bad habits soon enough (once the 'fun' slows down as it always does), plus you don't know how strong her feelings are, or whether she will stay with him or just use him and then move on!

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