should i call my mother???

[kayleigh81]

I'll try and keep this as short as i can...
Basically i havent spoke to my mum for just over a year and am debating whether i should try and make contact.
She left my dad for another man which caused arguments and upset for the whole family. we ended up arguing over the lies she had been telling us and we didnt speak for about 3 months.
I found out i was pg and all i got was a text off her saying ' when the baby is born give it a kiss from me'. No attempts to make up or even talk to me. Ive since had my ds who is 11 weeks and she hasn't made any attempt to contact me or ask how the baby is or if she can see him ( she still has contact with my brother).

Ive been thinking about ringing her for the last few days but i dont know if i should. I dont want her to think she can treat me the way she has, but on the other hand she's missing out on her grandson.

Does anyone have any opinions on what i should do or have u been in a simalar situation?

kayleigh enjoy your little one & your family who are there for you. You could tell your mum to contact you when she wants & then walk away from this issue. Don't take your time up with this - enjoy all the lovely moments. Best wishes xxx

Agree with Lucy lemon - not all grandparents are fussed about the role. My parents dote on my dd and contribute to her life in so many wonderful ways. But dp's parents are pretty indifferent, even though she's their only grandchild and lives just down the road.

If your mum isn't that bothered you will end up feeling let down all over again, and it will hurt.

Good luck whatever you decide is best for you