A cautionary reminder for this time of year

[ColinButterfly]

I hope everyone has a fab Christmas but I'm just posting to say that at this time of year, it's not all merry with the financial stress, family troubles and drinking can escalate and domestic/emotional abuse can reach crisis point.

Please don't be alone and please get help if you need.

MN Domestic abuse webguide www.mumsnet.com/webguide/domestic-violence

NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HELPLINE
0808 2000 247

Stay safe all xx

Good thinking Colin

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Although could I suggest that you repost on the 23rd as well with the thread title of 'Contact Details for National Domestic Violence Helpline' or similar so the thread is easily found & searchable for anybody in need of it.

Good post colin agree with the bumping to keep this visible.

If anyone would like a bit of private handholding, PM me?

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Bump for this important post.

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Good post x

Will try to keep this posted. Breaks my heart that what should be a special time for people gets trashed and then people on the receiving end feel pressured to deal with it because its Christmas.

there are posters willing to listen throughout this period too, so I hope people will come to this board if they need to talk.

Another bump.

Thank you Colin

Is pushing someone DV?

Pushing someone is classed as a battery and can be charged under common assault.
It's not acceptable, it is against the law and is DA.
Are you ok Mrsmorton?

Yes I'm ok. Thank you. It was the first time ever, he was drunk and he said it wouldn't happen again.

I know this is a well worn script and it's a deal breaker for me.

That's really shit. I'm so sorry and I'm glad you're ok.
Here for hand holding if you want to talk about anything, just sending strength and unmumsnetty but thoroughly appropriate hugs if not.
You are too valuable to risk and you deserve better than to be seen as fair game for assault. I'm glad you know your own worth and trust your own judgement, those are hard lessons for us all.

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Bump...so important. Hope everything is ok now mrsmorton

We were supposed to visit his family today but I said I couldn't do it. It is so hard isn't it, he looks at me with those eyes that I once loved so deeply and I don't anymore. I still care very much about him though

It is very hard isn't it MrsMorton.

What are your plans with regard to ending the relationship?

I know I need to. The decision is made but... I've been MIA from relationships for a while bcse I think people get fed up with giving good advice ( dutchoma AF and there's someone else wonderful on here too but their name escapes me) that I don't follow.

Most people here understand that it takes a while to leave, even once the decision is made, MrsM. Keep on taking baby steps...

Bumping x

Bump xx Stay safe everyone

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Bumping again, hope you're all ok x

Bump... Wishing everyone a tranquil and safe few days

I saw a police advert last night on DV and how it's not just physical.

Even though i have been 'out' for almost 3 years, it still makes me feel a little sick to see that behaviour.

If anyone has found their partner to be upsetting/cruel/mean or even out and out nasty, please step forward and open up to us. We can't wave the magic wand, but we can help you find the strength to be able to make decisions for yourself and your children. We can help you to stop feeling so powerless.

None of this is anything YOU did. please know this?