I'm really not sure how to deal with SIL. I feel that she takes me for granted. Obviously I can't just cut her off or have nothing to do with her but how she is behaving is really getting to me.
I do her a lot of favours; she works and I have her DC one day a week so that she can work, and also have them at the drop of a hat to help her out at other times.
Firstly, I never get so much as a thank you for any of the childcare that I provide. She really seems to take it for granted. She drops them off, talks about herself, and never asks how I am. She always asks how DH is though and if he arrives home at any point when I have the children for her, she treats him like a king and asks him how he is. I've had a difficult year with several things happening but SIL doesn't care about any of that. On the other hand, DH did a small favour for her a few weeks ago and she got him a present! I've not even ever had a thank you!
Secondly, she always makes arrangements through DH. She will text him and ask him to ask me to have the children for her. It's like she doesn't think I'm good enough to deal with.
Thirdly, if I comment on her facebook photos or statuses, she just ignores me, and then replies to everyone else in a gushing manner. I know it's only facebook, but it's hurtful that she does this.
I just feel like she doesn't treat me with any respect. DH has invited her and her DH round here on Sunday for lunch. How can I adjust how I am with her without being rude? Do I just act in a disinterested, vague way? I think I'm going to tell her that after the end of January I won't be able to have her children for her one day per week.