Go on a break to "guilt free" Cheat?

[gaygirlwales]

I have 2 best friends, both girls who are in a relationship with each other. They have been together a year and their relationship seemed very strong and they have a great bond.

Girl A has recently joined a swim team and has developed feelings for a new friend who also likes her. She told Girl B about this as wanted to be honest.

Girl B distraught but has said they can work through it.

Girl A feels she can't love her girlfriend if she is considering cheating.

Is there anything I can say to Girl A to talk sense into her? Is it possible to crush on someone else but be happy in a relationship? Girl A has asked for a break (I'm guessing to cheat) as she see's a future long term with Girl B but can't stop thinking about new friend.

Does this make sense?

I wouldn't think fair or respectful to your friends dp if they took a break so she could go and have relations with another person and then back into a relationship with B when she has it out of her system.
If I was B I would not agree to a break.

It's perfectly normal to find others attractive but if she want to cheat on her dp then she is best breaking up for good rather than having her cake and eating it.

Stay well out of this little pantomime. Crushes are fine as long as they are kept totally private and not acted upon. But people who 'develop feelings' for others and then feel obliged to be honest and tell their partners all about it are at best insensitive idiots and, at worst, horribly cruel. Try not to get drawn in.

Sounds to me like Girl A wants to have a fling with the new friend, and then have the option to go back to Girl B when it suits her. Which is shitty and selfish. Does she care about Girl B's feelings at all?

As Cogito says, stay well away from it.

I thought she did care. Girl B is ridiculously in love and has said she is willing to work through this no matter what happens.

I am trying to stay out, it just seems so out of character. She stopped taking her anti depressants 3 weeks ago, guessing this could be partly responsible?

Girl A is usually a very level headed person and has always given me great advice, she has never cheated and respects people a lot, this is why it's all so strange

You're piggy in the middle here and getting the 'she said, she said' treatment. You're not responsible for either of these people and, if you dare express an opinion, I guarantee you'll end up the bad guy rather than A or B. Listen, smile, nod and keep your bum firmly pinned to the fence.

It's up to the two of them, and it's certainly not your job to try and talk sense into Girl A.

It could be that an open relationship, with agreed parameters would suit them in the long term. I know a bisexual (male-female) couple who had an agreement that they could only 'cheat' with people of their own gender - complicated but it worked! Obviously not relevant here but they need to decide if there's a way forward.

It sounds like Girl A is just infatuated, though. Happens all the time and in a monogamous relationship you walk away or you face the consequences. Her choice.

Girl B would have to be mad to accept what Girl A is saying at face value. Time off to cheat? And this will be a one-off, will it? What about her next crush, and the one after that? I hope Girl B has enough self-respect to tell her to sod off.