Advice please

[Naomilouise1992]

I'm 8 months pregnant

Me and my partner where just having "fun"

Started seeing each other a year n a half ago found out in June I was pregnant and started going out and decided to give it a go in august this year.

He's been texting his ex "apparently they are friends" she's asking when she can meet me :s tbh I don't ever want to meet her. I'm not feeling attractive and I worry incase she's really pretty and skinny.

Just been flicking through some photos and I'm 99 percent sure she went to a family BBQ with him in July which he has not told me about I have seen a picture of him with a girl that he was with on a photo a few years ago....

Should I ask him or just let this go?? Xxx

I can't stand it when he just sits there on his phone....

I think he loves me,

I always try to make him feel special, I'm on mat leave I clean our house, run him a bath and make his tea for when he gets home and now I feel like he's stopped doing little things for me.

Another thing he finishes work early to go out with his friends, but I really wanted to go to a Christmas carol concert told him last week and today it started at 6. He came home half an hour late by time we got ther it was too full.

Grrrrr he didn't seem to bothered about me really wanting to do that!!!! Xx

Do you see a future with your partner op? Do you love him? Like him?

I think if it was me and I wanted to have a proper try at being a family then imo i think I would ask him? And suggest a clean break from any past ex's on both sides as it could have a negative effect on parenting together in a months time and in the months to come!

Your hormones will be playing havoc i'm sure you're glowing glowing

Yeh I love him loads

And I think he loves me loads

We have been the perfect little family but little things are annoying me now.

This whole texting his ex is annoying me. And this picture is doing my head in I wanna know if it's her. Apparently they wer together when they wer teens.

I don't talk to. Y ex I wouldn't dream of it. I think it's weird.

I'm not glwoing massive tummy , black eyes from. I sleep xxxx

You really shouldn't worry about being pregnant. :)

You should worry if he feels you're hooked and he can stop being the person you fell in love with.
He stopped doing the little things for you, seems to give unduly attention to an ex (why?) and disregards things the give you pleasure. But makes time for his mates.
For one, he's got the little wife at home cooking and running baths for him. And he's finding time to leave work early for his mates. While you prepare baths?

I do think you need to assess it now and establish the grounds for the future of you with him. Personally, I'm seeing the beginning of a slippery slope if you don't address it. But you may not be able to fix it, because it takes two, but you'll have to decide if that's the future you want.

In any case, don't become a sahm with this man.

It doesn't sound like you had a solid foundation to start with. If you weren't gp would you be living together and running his baths for him? It sounds like you have a very unequal set up and he doesn't really value you. This will get worse once the baby is born. It's hard to advise how to improve a relationship that's based on 'you accidentally got pregnant' because if you are forcing it for the sake of 'giving it a go' there's nothing to improve really.
It sounds like your love language is acts of service. I'd stop that if I were you, if your guy is anything like mine was you will be completely unappreciated for this and start feeling like a skivvy.

OP: Stop running him baths and simililiar.
He will expect you do carry on doing it when you have the baby.
He should be fussing over you.
I hope you don't pick his clothes up off the floor for him!

I think you doing the cooking is fine but he should be doing the washing up.

Not sure why he has to be friendly with his ex.
Has she got a new DP?

Best wishes to you.