I think the man I'm seeing has feelings for someone else

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I've only been seeing him for a few months and just recently started getting to know his friends. This woman is married to a friend of his. She's really pretty, sweet, charming. I can sense a chemistry between them for sure but I don't know if anything has ever happened. I asked him and he denies it. I don't want to suggest that anything happened between them because she is married and she probably only sees him as a friend, but I think he has feelings for her. I'm dating the man, I know how he acts when he's attracted to someone.

Do you have any advice? It's pointless to break up over this because it seems very unlikely that they are actually ever going to be together. I don't even think the attraction is reciprocated. I just want to know if he does have feelings for her because it's making me insecure, especially with him denying it.

I think it is possible to be attracted to different people at the same time.
What would matter here for me would be if he was more attracted to me or if I felt like second best.
It's a few months. How does your relationship feel to you, regardless of her? Is is strong or are there weaknesses? Concentrating on her might not let you see him carefully enough.

I think your man can't win in this. If he says no then you get suspicious & think he's lying & if he says yes then you probably won't be able to let it go at all.

Stop worrying about it, we are all allowed to have a crush or 2 as long as its under control & not changing your behaviour or habits. If she isn't responding in kind then its unlikely to go any further. Can I also suggest that you might be making your man insecure himself as you don't seem to trust him & that can break up a relationship as well.

Do you have trust or infidelity issues from a previous relationship?