Advice to go through with the split

[diamondsrforever]

I no me n my fiancé have run r course...it's a constant argument, we don't sleep together we don't go out together basically don't do anything a couple should! All we do is argue! I am jus finding it so hard to call it quits for good coz of ds1, he's had so many changes lately with ds2 arriving and loves having daddy home as he gets all his attention, I'm scared he'll be angry with me for daddy not being here. Fiancé and I have discussed splitting up many times n I always backtrack for the sake of ds1! We have bin through so much together but have give it "one last try" a ridiculous amount of times n I'm jus not happy! Need help/advice on how to actually go through with it minus the guilt of splitting the family up!!!

Have you set a date for the wedding?

From what you say, it's definitely not a good idea to stay together and definitely not for your DCs. Children will be happy if the home is happy and that doesn't mean that you stay together when things are as bad.

Your DCs can still have a very close and loving relationship with their Dad even if you are not together.

I found it a little difficult reading your post in text speak by the way.

No amount of one-sided 'trying' can make someone love you if they don't. DCs are far more damaged by living in an angry, loveless atmosphere than they are living with one relaxed, happy parent.

If you want to make anything happen you need a certain amount of information and planning. The main things to get straight are a roof over your head and finances. Everything else can be worked out separately and, even if you don't get along as a couple, you should be able to work something amicable for the sake of the DCs. I don't know your living arrangments at the moment and whether you have a joint mortgage or whose name is on the rental but that's probably the place to start