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single and lonely

8 replies

benben202020 · 15/12/2013 21:33

Need some advice. I am a male with 3 kids 19 year old lives with me and the 11 and 8 year olds live with their mum. I have been divorced for 1 1/2 years now and had no relationships. Xmas is coming and im finding it hard to be honest I need a lady but cant seem to get dates and miss sex so much. Has anyone else had/ having similar problem and if so how do you deal with it because I am struggling. Thanks.

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Livinginlimbo2 · 15/12/2013 22:24

What about joining something like a Salsa class or line dancing where you don't need a partner plus there are bound to be lot's of ladies there. Another thing; just don't try too hard to "pull" or be overly gentlemanly as this can be a bit off putting. Just be yourself and have fun!!

thecatneuterer · 15/12/2013 22:46

I was just going to suggest salsa too. It's fun, you meet lots and lots of people and it's all ages.

monkina · 15/12/2013 22:56

Hello :) it's horrible being lonely isn't it? a female friend of mine is in a similar position to you, she has recently started internet dating and it has given her a real boost of confidence.

There are so many sites out there, with lots of other lonely divorcee parents in the same boat. Best of luck :)

1983mummy · 15/12/2013 22:56

There's also a 'club' called the spice club, which is predominantly aimed at single people of all ages. They do regular meets and different activities. There might be one running in your area?

melanie58 · 15/12/2013 23:08

If you're interested in singing you could think about joining a choir - always far more women than men and they tend to be very friendly. I feel your pain. I'm not a very sentimental person, but find this time of year is particularly difficult.

patienceisvirtuous · 15/12/2013 23:10

You could try meetup too.

EBearhug · 15/12/2013 23:15

Dance classes always have more women than men. Probably wouldn't go for ballroom, though - most people go as a couple, and you won't get to change couples much (IME.)

joggingalone · 15/12/2013 23:52

Guardian Soulmates? There's an offer on till 16th Dec. just now. 20% off, I think. Check it out. You could meet someone really nice there maybe fairly quickly who is lonely too.
Btw. I don't think you should have mentioned that you're missing sex here. Many women are sick to the back teeth of men who seem to focus on sex so much as if it was really the main thing they want a woman for. It makes them feel you view them as sex objects and they find that hateful, insulting and disgusting. (Just a tip.)

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