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What can I do if I can't afford counselling? (might be a bit long)

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devilatmyheels · 14/12/2013 20:04

Hello Mumsnet. I've been in and out for years but never registered. And now here I am, asking for help when I've never offered any. Blush

Me and Mrs Devilatmyheels have been together for near enough 15 years. We've got some kids, a mortgage, all that sort of thing. Mostly our situation is stable in terms of work etc. We get on quite well. We've had arguments, some bad, one or two that would have MN screaming LTB or Murder TB or whatever. We differ in several aspects but that's OK too. Recently though, say in the last year, I get the idea that we've properly grown apart.

A problem (not THE problem, not THE ONLY problem) is that she prefers not to talk, being a least-said-soonest-mended type. I suppose it's a Northern thing. Actually it's worse than that, she just won't talk. Over the years I've accepted that some people just don't work that way.

But now I'm not too sure. Things have come to a head for me (I can't describe the specifics, she's never off this site or the other ones of this kind and I don't think she'd like it if I was on here asking for help). I want to do right and I need someone to talk to. But the price of counselling is beyond me- we're skint.

Is there anywhere I can turn? I know you can get it on the NHS in some areas but I don't know whether we have that sort of time.

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brusslesprout · 14/12/2013 20:07

Try your gp? I was offered counselling and got it pretty much straight away, and I've had well over 10 sessions. Worth a try all they can so is say no?!

Trigglesx · 14/12/2013 20:09

There are also local charities in many areas that offer counselling sometimes on a sliding scale, based on what you can pay, often for free if you cannot pay at all.

devilatmyheels · 14/12/2013 20:32

Both good suggestions. We share a gp so I'm not cockahoop at the thought of going to him if I can do something else. And we live quite remotely and support for things is quite hard to get anyway, KWIM?

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MajesticWhine · 14/12/2013 20:40

Any counselling you have via the GP would be entirely confidential, unless you present with any risk to yourself or others. Your partner would not need to know. So I agree it's worth asking. There might be a long wait but it's better to get on that waiting list than do nothing. Alternatively some private counsellors will offer some lower cost sessions, based on your ability to pay. Eg £10 per hour instead of £50. Not all will do this, but again, there is nothing to lose by asking.

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