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Original poster

Split up, I'm still a fat horrible cunt who's a useless person...

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oopsadaisyme · 13/12/2013 21:44

When does somebody eventually get the hint you have had enough of them, so they can actually stop texting their bile, cos your just not listening anymore|???

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oopsadaisyme · 13/12/2013 22:24

Words are words, and thought I posted for a little advice, police not needed as I'm not in need of that sort of help, just a little advice with dealing with an ex, who's a little 'free with his insults??

If I was a bit more 'simple' maybe would followed through with some advice, but i'm not??

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kaumana · 13/12/2013 22:25

Keep the texts/emails do not in any way respond.

He, as you know is an arse. So, don't waste one second thinking about him.

TwinklesTheXmasFairy · 13/12/2013 22:26

Report, keep a diary of all the phone calls messages/ any contact, report to police and have you thought about seeing if you can get an injunction?

most important do not buy into any of his shit... You are none of those things, he is just an insecure twatty little man!!

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 13/12/2013 22:29

He sounds unhinged. Is he a drinker/on drugs? That's not normal behaviour for a rational adult. I'm concerned you don't seem to see this. Did he talk to you like this during the relationship?

rootypig · 13/12/2013 22:30

Christ, what a malicious bastard. Well he's pissed off to have lost you, or he wouldn't be chuntering at all.

You're well shot. If you're not going to report - fair enough, if you don't think he'll do anything else - violent? After the kids? - then block his number. And arrange to go out with some pals for a laugh, get your spirits up.

BitOfFunWithSanta · 13/12/2013 22:32

Well, you have my advice- change your phone for now and stop communicating with him. Same as everyone said on the last thread, really. I'm not sure why you are seeing this as confrontational? Nobody wants you to have to continue being subjected to his asshattery.

Armadale · 13/12/2013 22:34

He is absolutely evil to refer to your MC's in that way, I'm so sorry.

I had this problem once with an ex-boyfriend and eventually did go and ask the police for advice. They were very good. They went round to see him in person for a chat...don't know what was said but I never heard from him again after 20+ horrid messages a day.

Lweji · 13/12/2013 22:35

Feeling very sorry for you, and I understand you need to rant, but block the bloody number, or at least delete the texts without reading them.

PassTheSherry · 13/12/2013 22:39

Gosh that is one major hissy fit. You do know, that it's more about him hating himself, right? He's just trying to hurt you, so you can join him in his miserable self-loathing. Misery loves company.

This abuse just proves how much better off you'd be without him. Yuck. It would almost be comical if it wasn't so nasty.

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oopsadaisyme · 13/12/2013 22:41

I've not been hit or abused, just words -and from ex, so rid of

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LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 13/12/2013 22:42

Thank goodness you are rid of him, well done

Betrayedbutsurvived · 13/12/2013 22:47

What a sad little waste of oxygen he is. If it doesn't bother you then just ignore. He will crawl back under his stone once he realises he can't win.

mammadiggingdeep · 13/12/2013 22:48

You have been abused. Those texts are abusive. You're not really rid of because he's still able to spout that vile rubbish to you. Seriously- block the dickheads number.

Timeforabiscuit · 13/12/2013 22:59

oops - Its not just words, they are being written to hurt and undermine you - he is trying to hurt you.

If someone throws a punch at you, and you duck - that doesn't mean they shouldn't be done for it.

Just because these words aren't making their mark doesn't mean he shouldn't be pulled up on it. He is doing it again and again and ignoring it isn't stopping him.

One sharp warning from the police could be enough to stop all the messages, and if he carries on get an injunction - you know the situation best, you know what frightens him and what pushes his buttons - take care of yourself.

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oopsadaisyme · 13/12/2013 22:59

I've only been abused if i've let those hurtful horrible comments affect me, and I haven't , just words from a spitful man who's no longer in my life -

So well shot, and gone -

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lydiamama · 13/12/2013 23:00

Hi lovely, I had similar 'compliments' recently, unfortunately no by text, and I know how difficult is to deal with it. I advice you not to read the stuff, get a new number if you can, keep this one in a drawer, lock away and ignore his texts. He is trying to push your buttons, to force you to feel something, and he is getting it, so vent here with us or your family but do not reply to him

WhatAPallava · 13/12/2013 23:08

Keep all the texts and report him for harassment. I'm going through something slightly similar although the texts aren't as nasty...The police will take it seriously!
Getting the police involved does not mean you're not strong.....It means he has no right to do what he's doing and somebody should show him that.

If you're so bad then why would he have you?!?!?!

He sounds disgusting and I'm sure you're so much better off without him xx

lollerskates · 13/12/2013 23:23

have to keep the texts because Ive been told too

Who's told you to keep them?

HairyGrotter · 14/12/2013 07:00

All a bit attention seeking, your ex and this thread Hmm

Why keep them if you're not building up a profile of abuse to present to the authorities? Also, being a victim doesn't mean weak.

Take your martyrdom and stop attention seeking and deal with your ex by reporting him

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