Just got pregnant. Boyfriends been cheating!!!

[mumof3xxx]

Ok so I'm 6 weeks pregnant with our 3rd child....

A few months ago I found texts on his phone from a woman and he'd been tellin her he missed her with kisses etc. he told me his frend was using his phone...... I let it drop.
Then, u found him on a dateline and said it wasn't even him!!!!! How stupid so I hacked his date line account and he has been messaging loads of women sayin they're stunning and gorgeous and wants to take them out... Including the woman he was txting on his phone months ago and he lied and said it was his friend. Heaven swore on our kids life's it wasn't him when it was!! Iv thrown him out, he's sleeping on the streets in his van! I'm so torn up and hurt. I don't no which way to turn. How could I forgive him for this. X

I wouldn't forgive him if I were you.

I just don't no wat to do for the kids etc. would it be bad to just change my number and say bye and cut him out my life

Your children deserve better

What a bloody awful for you to be in.

I think you should forget about whether or not you'll be able to forgive him. You must be feeling absolutely shell shocked at the moment and I wouldn't think you'd be in a position to make any long term decisions. The only thing you need to concentrate on at the moment is you and your children. Have you got family and friends around you to help?

I got a good mum and dad but hardly see them. Me and my little girls are just on our own a lot. They keep askin were he is and I don't really answer. I feel like just changing my number and forgetting about him completely. I'm gona get Xmas out the way b4 I have my 1st midwife appointment.
I love hm of course and can't stop thinking of him sleeping in his van over Xmas. But it's his fault and I want better one day x

This is an awful time Mumof3 and you will be feeling absolutely dreadful, i was where you were 10weeks ago and found i ranged from grief,anger, despised him,wanted him back etc, from experience it is better for your own sanity to do NOTHING at the moment, just concentrate on getting through each hour ,looking after yourself and DC and try not to focus on what he is doing/ wants, at the moment it is so raw and you HAVE to protect your own health and feelings. I am so sorry this has happened to you, its a long road but def keep posting, the Women on MN have been a godsend with advice when i was early days xxx

Thank you.. I keep telling myself I obviously wasn't good enough. I feel worthless and horrible. I don't know what to tell my 4 year old. I just cry when they're in bed x

When did you find out? Why is he sleeping in his van?

Last week and bcos iv thrown him out

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Well, in that case, why did it take you so long getting here? We're all here for you. And you did damn right chucking him out. He made his bed, now he's sleeping in it.

Don't even think for a second it's because you aren't good enough. He's the one who isn't good enough, you're doing great! If he didn't want to sleep in his van over Christmas he shouldn't have been out shagging. No need to cut him off from seeing the children but definitely well rid as a DP.

Thank you everybody x