Present from Anne summers

[JackieBauer]

Ok, been seeing a fella for about 6 weeks, he said he's going xmas shopping tomorrow and is going into Anne Summers for my present. They probably do some nice stuff but I know they do some crazy stuff too. There is no way I'm dressing up in something ridiculous for anyone! Although I love nice undies, I'd rather pick them myself. How can I delicately tell him? We are both late 40's if that makes any difference

As I haven't known him long I was going to get him a nice cheese board, and possibly some smellies.

In all seriousness, I have to admit that I would be a bit creeped out with an underwear present after only 6 weeks. I feel that that sort of gift is very intimate, definitely only to be bought after the "I love you's" have first been exchanged at the very earliest. Also, presumably he doesnt really know what you like (otherwise, why are you worried?! :o) so it smacks a bit of him buying what he thinks you should be wearing, rather than something he thinks you will both appreciate.

Just my (probably totally wrong) opinion!

Nah Bogey I reckon you are spot on. You've managed to put into words why I find it a wee bit creepy.

Weeeeeeeell!

Gosh, this will out me (the story is well known).

But it's not necessarily bad.

I was very hesitantly entering into a relationship after my vile marriage. He was funny, good company and the sex was awesome.
He was off work one day, and doing some shopping near my place of work. He popped into Anne Summers and purchased:
Crotchless pants
A diamanté vibrator
A butt plug
Some lube
He then popped to the local market and bought:
2 packs of adhesive googly eyes
50 disposable lighters
20 Bic pens
A crappy plastic handbag with Pokemon pictures on it.

He stuffed the items into the handbag, drove to my place of work, and went into reception. He managed to catch the eye of our Sales Director, passed him the bag, and asked to have it sent to me. Thinking he was hilarious, of course.

It was delivered to my office. My colleagues are super nosey!
I guessed it was from him, but thought it would be something of mild comedy value.
I opened it in full view and almost died!!

Reader, we are together 3 years on! The proposal was just beautiful (no sex aids involved). We have a baby together too.

Oh, and the gifts these days are significantly better.
This year I am getting shoes for Christmas. Alexander McQueen shoes!
And he is still awesome in bed.

Well it has to be better than the electric can opener exdh bought me one year!
All jokes aside, I really don't want him to spend money on something I won't wear, I love the idea of telling him I'm getting his pressy from AS, hopefully he would have a coronary bless him !

Bogey you are absolutely spot on

Love it, Beck!

I have an Ann Summers misfire story, with the sexes reversed:

My husband's longest-term girlfriend prior to meeting me decided, when they hadn't been together that long, to dress up for him in one of those PVC "naughty nurse" outfits.

He arrived, she stepped out for the big reveal and began to, um, work her charms (DH was understandably a bit hazy as to details here), only to be confronted by averted eyes and shuffling awkwardness from DH - emphatically NOT the desired reaction.

You see, DH;s mother was/is a nurse so that scenario is (thank God) anything but sexy to his mind. Poor DH spent the rest of the evening comforting his GF, who took his lack of enthusiasm personally and was in floods!

There is nowt wrong with ann summers these days they have upped their game, if he is getting you toys ask him to get you a magic wand if they sell them, it has a dual purpose as a muscle massager and was originally brought to market not as a sex toy.

Also, if he's planning to get you lingerie as opposed to toys/costumes, just get him to wrap the gift receipt with the gift, then if it's a trifle garish you can exchange it on Boxing Day for one of their classier numbers.

I worked in a lingerie store (not AS) while at uni and every Boxing Day there would be a slew of wives and girlfriends brandishing receipts and howling: "What was he thinking?!"

I'd be tempted to text him the following-

'Hi. Been talking to a friend about you purchasing a gift for me from Ann summers and musing with her on what to get you. She told me that Ann summers do gifts for men now too, who knew! She said it's called the beads and plug section or something. ??? Might have a nosey myself on what to get you.'

I imagine he might just be winding you up.

Personally I really dislike getting sexy lingerie as a gift unless I've specifically asked for it; I see it as a present for the man rather than for me and I resent that.

Agree Livid