Errgh...why would an old flame do this?

[magicbiscuits]

Years ago - but not decades ago - I had a fling with an acquaintance of the man who is now my DH. It was a very naughty fling - he had a girlfriend at the time and was known to be a player (though I didn't know this until I was already involved).

It didn't last long, but about two years later and just before I met DH, we slept together again. He was just as sleazy as before. I got quite hurt and though he wanted to stay friends (or at least have me around as a casual shag) I completely blocked him out (which did mean avoiding some social events due to DH's connections - he knows nothing of this AFAIK).

Now he's cropped up again randomly wanting to add me on a social networking site. I have to admit it knocked me for six. It took me ages to get over him because he was so nice while we did spend time together, and we got on really well. It was his reputation and his desire not to get into anything serious that made me decide to go no-contact.

What should I do? I feel like it might make things easier with DH to be friends with him but on the other hand I don't want DH finding out, as DH already disrespects him somewhat (most of his friends have slept with the guy as well!)

Knock some sense into me, please

This sleepy dog has to be left to lie far, far away. Social networking request therefore = bit fat no.

Yeah. Perhaps he's feeling lonely again close to Christmas

Nope.

Best to ignore. Especially seeing as how you never told your dh. If he ever finds out he'll wonder why you hid it and then oh look, he's on your facebook. Wouldn't be good.

No

Deep down you're probably tempted to maybe start talking to him again, I've felt this way about ex's before.

But try think of it how DH would if he knew about your past and that you started talking to this man who he dislikes!

I completely understand your temptation, I'd be the exact same. But there honestly is no good to come of this.

Be kind to yourself and your DH and stay away

Ugh, he sounds vile. He's probably putting the feelers out to all his old flames to see if anyone is up for a no strings attached shag. It always seems to happen around this time of year.

Ignore ignore ignore.

Sounds like the FB equivalent of the old 'little black book'... I can practically see him twirling his moustaches.

No, no, no. You don't owe this idiot the time of day or directions to his local McDonalds.

You can be civil to him if you see him in person, but for bog's sake you don't need to be friends with him - even fake facebook friends.

Who does he think he is?

Sod him. Ignore him.

Block him so he can't see you or contact you again, make sure the block covers messages too, I have learnt that one the hard way....

No, no, no. Block him! You really don't need him in your life.

Defiantly block him, let sleeping dogs and all that.

Ignore the fucker, why would you allow this moron a second thought. FB is moronic in my opinion and full of predators in various disguises, knob head ex's being just one of them!