How do you end it? Is text ever okay?

[Dirtybadger]

I wrote in my post yesterday but no responses (for reference "encouraging honesty").

I want to take the advice everyone, essentially, gave me.
I found more things late last night from about a year and a half ago. Managed to get about 3 hours sleep, not bad considering.

I want him gone but I have no idea how to make him go. If I wait for him to come home at noon he will cry, emotionally blackmail and minimise/make excuses. I'll end up feeling more sorry for him than myself and he won't be going anywhere. Even if I stick to my guns and he does eventually relent I am worried he will take our dog. But I don't want us ending to result in a brawl. Neither of us have ever been violent before and I am a passive woman but could not be in that circumstance (in fact, crying thinking about this now).

I want to text him essentially telling him game's up piss off, contact such and such (don't have a person?) about getting your things, don't contact me.

I know everyone says don't split up with someone via text. But I don't see that he deserves any respect! I can maintain the anger when it's faceless but will crumble in front of him. Is it still unreasonable?

I feel absolutely sick. There is no one here for me so I will just have to lock myself away at the back of the house. I imagine he will turn up hammering at the door. I've taken the key off his keyring and removed the spare key. I'll bolt the door.

I am grateful of any advice! Thank you.

I think it's better to deal with these things face to face if at all possible. It's not always possible to make someone leave, especially if it's as much their home as yours, there's no aggression/violence involved and so on. Most would rather ship out than live in an unhappy environment but plenty would rather endure it until they actually have to move when the divorce is underway and the house has to be sold.

When you say you want to lock yourself away, do you fear him?