I want to seperate from my dh but how the hell do I go about it?

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I have realised it's def not going to work out we are both miserable and unhappy he constantly has a go at me all the time
I actually can't take it anymore
My oldest child is being affected by it all now too

So after 20 months of trying to make things better
I have finally decided this is defiantly it

But I have no idea where to start

Do I make an appointment to see a solicitor if so what sort
I'm guessing some sort of family lawyer
Will the first consoultation be free

Are there any websites that can talk you through the practicalities

I'm a sahm with a child at school and a nine week old baby
Dh is an accountant

I have no idea what will happen with the house

I just don't know where to begin

I think I need to start from a practical point of view first

I'm sorry you're so unhappy. Yes, it's a good idea to get some legal advice and gather a bit of information around you. If you have a look at the law society website you can find a solicitor specialising in family law in your area. Some offer a free initial consultation. Most couples these days try to organise a 50/50 arrangement for parenting - or something approaching that depending on the age of the children and what fits their schedules. Finance and accommodation are big things to sort out. There are legal minimums ... CSA, division of marital assets etc... but if you're cooperative and able to settle things amicably, you can work something out between you without involving solicitors as long as everyone's prepared to sign on the dotted line at the end.

Good luck

Olgaga did a brilliant blog with information on separating:
surviveseparation.blogspot.co.uk/2012/12/separation-and-divorce-advice-and-links.html