LITERALLY Just been called that ex MIL has died - but he's a c***

[ScrewedUpJune]

I posted about 2 hours ago about being lonely after splitting in february and I have literally and I MEAN LITERALLY just got a call from ex that his mother has just died!

If he wants someone there for him, he'll always be able to pay for it.

Oh I see he already did. :(

You do not have to accept him in your home, and no decent person would demand that at 1am.

He's making this about him. He has no-one else in the world? Much of that is due to his sleeping around and procuring prostitutes.

Who the fuck goes to get a lap dance when their mum dies? Really who?

He is disgusting!

He hasn't behaved in an acceptable way, but people do strange things when they're in shock. OP is the one person he thinks he can turn to - she needs to make it very clear that she's not there for him any more.

I've just had more or less the opposite situation - my ex's brother died suddenly (life support turned off 3 days after a massive stroke). He still won't talk to me at all. I loved his brother and found the whole thing very difficult - I'd known him 28 years since he was 19. I wanted to phone my ex to offer my sympathy and give him a hug at the funeral. I asked my eldest son to tell ex that I'd like to phone him and had the reply 'If I want to speak to her then I'll call her'. At the wake he turned away from me so I left after a very short time. DS asked him whether it would be ok if I spoke to him 'briefly' before I left and he replied 'I'd rather she didn't'. So of course I respect all of that.

The only person you have to be there for and support is your DS, if he needs it - he's lost his GM.