Hiya girls
This will probably turn into the longest vent ever, so Im saying sorry in advance.
Bit of history, I met my DP a year ago today, met his mums shortly after, it was a whirlwind romance and he was living with me by oct. Soon as he moved in MIL took it on herself to start slagging off my parenting, I could cope with it at first. Christmas, I was telling ds off for smacking me in the face, she took his hands mid telling off anf dragged him away! SHes constantly making comments about the way I discipline him, feed him etc.. Its never ending tbh. She once told DP that i dont feed him enough and he will die of diptheria!! I mean fgs what kind of thing is that to say!
Recently we have moved in with her because we are taking over her mortgage when she moves to Madeira at the beginning of Aug!! That is 3 weeks away.
Im pregnant again at the moment so not in the best frame of mind, lost 5 babies before this one, so its been a long road to get here, the worrying and being anxious about it never stops. Shes constantly rubbing my belly, trying to feed me food i cant stand because "the baby wants it" I know dp is dreading the baby coming because the amount of times hes argued with her over my ds in unbelievable.
I had a scare at 6 weeks with this pregnancy, bled quite heavily and thought we had lost it. The next day she said "was you lifting heavy things yesterday" to me it sounded like she was implying it was my fault. So since we found out all is ok, shes always telling me off for picking up my son, we moved house and I tried to help carry the light things in here, she kept taking them off me. telling me to put my feet up. Till yesterday dp was building the bunk beds and she moaned because I was sitting down and not helping!!!
If I tell ds he cant have something, she will go behind my back and give it to him, like drink before he goes to bed, he knows his limit is half an hour before bed he has a snack and a drink but no more after that so he doesnt have accidents in the middle of the night. Last night he was kicking up a fuss when I put him to bed (at 9pm because she thinks 8pm for a 4 year old is too early) I shut his door and left him throwing a paddy, eventually he would have gone asleep. I told him loud enough so MIL could hear me that he was not having a drink whilst in bed.
We went to tesco, when we came back ds was asleep, she was hovering round his door guiltily, wouldnt let me be alone with him at all, I noticed the toilet seat was up and it hadnt been flushed, only ds in the house for that so shes blantenly give him a drink and made him go the toilet!! Why cant she listen to me.
She often makes comments like "shes too hard on him" - "she punishes him too much" - "she treats him like a prisoner sometimes" It really angers me but it also hurts and upsets me, so Far I have bit my tongue and just cried to dp about it but Last night was the final straw, quite a few times I walked in she shut up mid sentence, so it was obvious she was slagging me off again. I tried to speak to dp about it and was told "shut Ju i cant be arsed with it"
Im going to ask ds when he wakes up if mil gave hi ma drink and there will me hell to pay when she gets home from work if she did, my hormones are boiling over and to be honest no one ever has the right to undermine me and tell me what to do with my son. Who by the way I did bring up alone for his first 4 years!! We need to put a stop to this now, shes not even ds's real grandparent, but when this baby comes I think things are going to get much much worse!!
Any ideas, dp is no help, i think its gonna have to be me who has to tell her.