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Really dissappointed in my DH

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dissappointed · 28/02/2004 07:03

I know this has been discussed alot but I haven't the energy to search after a crap nigt sleep thinking about it.

A little while ago I found some videos in DH's wardrobe, Adult videos. I wasn't to upset about it and told him that I had found them. He was VERY embarrassed about it and said he hasn't watched them in ages. Admittedly I was abit curious about them and took at one of them out of the bag...... I was shocked at the pictures I saw. I don't concider myself to be a prude but the picture were disgusting, really hardcore.
I told him that I looked at it and was shocked at the one I saw so he said he would throw them out. He hasn't but think it's more that we both forgot about them that intensionally keeping them.
Anyway heres the bit why I'm so dissappointed. I was trying to install something on the PC last night and messed it up so had to uninstall it and on that page I found some stuff that he's been using and tried to delete. Porn stuff. I feel so sad that he's doing this when he's told me he hasn't watched the videos in ages, I can see why now.
I think we have an excellent sex life but now all I can think is that he's watching those because I'm not enough. I feel sick and sad at what he's doing behind my back.

I know someone will answer that all men do this which is fine but it's the sneekiness of it all that has upset me.

I'm not a troll, I've changed my name as 2 of my family use MN and I don't particulary want them knowing about this.

Sorry for the rambling, just need to get it all off my chest.

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Chinchilla · 28/02/2004 20:45

Personally, I'm sure that dh masturbates, but I don't want to know when. I don't even want to have it acknowledged between us that we both do it. I don't understand the reasoning behind having no secrets between you. It is good to keep some things to oneself IMO.

spacemonkey · 28/02/2004 20:46

Exactly. It's a private matter IMO.

dissappointed · 28/02/2004 20:54

My life isn't interesting enough to have secrets that's the only reason I haven't got any!

incompatable sex drives here I think as I'm aware he masturbates, whereas I never have, just don't feel the need or desire to do it to myself.....maybe I should learn to.

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Clarinet60 · 28/02/2004 21:02

Don't you sometimes spend a bit in secret? I don't mean vast amounts. I sometimes have to lop a tenner or two off the price of something, to make DH feel better, bless him....

dissappointed · 28/02/2004 21:06

I do that droile and always mean to reduce the price but can never do it.....I'm too bloody honest for my own good.

Gonna go out tomorrow and spend loads and tell him they gave it to me for nothing just to make up for it!

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Clarinet60 · 28/02/2004 22:31

I think that might make you feel better, disappointed. I suppose it comes as a shock to find that you have different tastes and you aren't 'one', as it were. Me & DH, we've never had that problem, LOL.......

lavender1 · 28/02/2004 22:43

I'm very sorry to hear about your problem....men and women are different...for men they can have a brilliant sex life at home but still want to see pictures...think it's the way they are wired and like if you say your sex life is good, maybe it's just something he enjoys (if he was having an affair then I would be worried)...know it's hard but men are just different and some do this some don't...it is normal...believe me

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