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Feeling....meh :-(

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HeartVHead · 07/12/2013 16:49

So, the short story is I had an abortion 3 weeks or so ago and have split up with the baby's father because of the whole situation. Last night though we met and ended up in bed.

He has been totally unsupportive and I am not sure why I suggested meeting with him; only that he did not turn up to the clinic appointment, we haven't talked (I have started a work placement and we couldn't meet up, not that he didn't want, not that it matters) and I haven't been able to talk to anyone about it as have had to carry to like normal what with being a single parent and not knowing anyone at work. Incidentally, my work placement is in obstetrics.

I have had 3 assignments to submit in the last two weeks and generally have not handled the whole situation well because I have not had a moment to think about an process what has happened.

I miss my XDP despite everything but realise I might be missing the relationship rather than him per se and the last month has just been a total nightmare. I'm not eating or sleeping well and just feel extremely fragile and lost.

I am posting here to offload and don't expect any answers. I am sure that time and space will help but i'm going out tonight with my girlfriends and can see myself having a couple of drinks and being the emotional wreck crying in the toilets.

Life is shit sometimes and I seem to make one bad decision after another.

OP posts:
DaveBussell · 07/12/2013 17:23

Please be gentle on yourself Flowers. This is such a hard situation and if he is the only one who knows then it's not surprising you turned to him. Abortion can take a massive emotional toll, people can underestimate it.

Can you talk to one of your girlfriends? If not then did the clinic suggest any counselling?

fusspot66 · 07/12/2013 17:27

Just fussing on your behalf, but did you think about contraception? You wouldn't want a baby with a git like him.
Be kind to yourself and take it easy if you can. [hugs]

ImperialBlether · 07/12/2013 17:30

You poor thing. Just a word of warning though, you can't get pregnant from last night, can you?

HeartVHead · 07/12/2013 18:40

Deffo wont be pregnant as used contraception. I did use contraception when I got pregnant before and was apparently 'unlucky' :-(

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cjel · 07/12/2013 21:23

Heart, As DAve said, be kind to yourself and do what you need to help you get through, you will get fed up with calling him when you have chance to catch your breath and think about all thats gone on.

Try and find someone in RL that you can off load to next time you want to meet up with himFlowers

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