He said "I dont need you"

[SupermansGirl]

So I'm rather emotional right now...iv had an argument with DP and Im 37weeks pregnant.

He said "don't think I need you" and then "your not anyone special".

I am gob smacked he has never in our 4 year relationship said this. I walked away and i haven't seen him since which was 2 days ago.

I want to send him a text to see where i stand i don't want to see him or speak to him on the phone. I am terrible at talking to him in an argument any help suggestions please...

Wannabe the pregnancy was unplanned i found at 3 months whilst we was in Cancun. We was living together but had to move back home due to me leaving my job and I wanted to be close to my family. We are financially fine and it seemed perfect at the time as the relationship was great. I think the thought of him being a dad now has scared him a bit now as he was happy before.

Thanks for all the lovely advice...He just text me to say why do we argue so much. I text back to say because we never sit and talk and solve things we just shove them behind us and then they get brung up again.

Communication is everything. Hopefully you can talk this through. Having a baby is hard, giving your job up is hard- women if all ages feel it at some level when they do it. I was 32 when dd1 came along- I felt it affected my friendships and one sister became distant too for a while. What I'm saying is this is all normal.

Really hope you can talk it through xx

I'm glad he has got in touch.
All couples argue and having a baby is hard on a relationship. Use this as a chance to start talking to each other more about how you feel. You will argue in the course of your relationship, that's normal, it's how you deal with things that counts.

You can travel with a baby! You could work for yourself though! Travel writer/blogger. Just make your situation work for you.

Failing that, Could your mum help with childcare after your maternity leave runs out?

Hissy I left my job completely if i took maternity leave I would still have no choice but to leave at the end my mum works full time and i worked in PR and Marketing for various tourist boards which meant flying to Antigua one week then Poland the next. My dream job but not flexible enough at the stage im at to have a baby.

I do plan to go back to work 3 days a week once baby is a year old but will have to find a different industry.

Kind of sorted things with DP but need to see him and talk things over face to face so we are meeting for dinner tomorrow.

Good luck supers.

Your job sounded fantastic :) I'm sure you'll find work again with the skills you have.

I hope things work out with you and your dp. Good luck with the baby x

• meant to say...good luck with the future and enjoy the baby.... :)