think DHs ex wants him back. Do I do anything?

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I trust DH 100%. He has children and an exW and we've been together for 4 years. Six months after we got together she asked him to get back together and for the 4 of them to move away. He didn't tell me about this but I know he said he wasn't interested and never would be again. At collection of the children she dresses quite provocatively and sends pictures to him of the children but also with her in claiming she didn't take one of them alone She has also been posting 'mysterious' statuses on FB about relationships starting again and fresh starts etc.

He is business like in his communications regarding the children and ignores her attempts to joke or indulge in unrelated conversation. A couple of months into our relationship she claimed he came on to her but she has a huge history of lying and cheating. She sent me loads of texts saying they were first loves and there'd always be something there. I think she's renewed her attempts to get him back recently as theres been increased communication and photos. Do I do anything?

Do I do anything?

Talk to your husband about it?

Yep keep talking to your bloke.

Why are you looking at her Facebook though? Seriously, don't give her the headspace.

Ignore all communications from her or block her number.

I've blocked her number. A mutual friend told me about the Facebook statuses. DH doesn't know about them and hasn't mentioned the photos. There's nothing to say really, as I trust him but do foresee this preempting another claim somethings happened between them.

I trust DH 100%

There's your answer

hmm, what she wants and what she'll get are two different things. Speak to your DH about it, I'm sure he'll tell you he's not interested. Who ended their relationship BTW? Was it her and is that why you're worried (as it wasn't his choice in the first place.)

It's not good that your husband isn't telling you about her advances and it isn't good that you aren't telling him about fb and whatnot. You need to talk about it. It is better if you are a team and agree together how you are going to handle it.

What HEC said, why didn't he tell you about her advances? I think he should have.

I know he isn't interested, but let's face it - he'd be unlikely to tell me even if he was! He ended it as she cheated. I don't think he gets that the photos and texts are flirtatious to be honest, he's quite naive. The FB statuses don't mention him specifically so would make me sound a bit paranoid to keep bringing them up. I just think it's disrespectful and inappropriate of her to do it.

why do you need to do anything ?

your H might need to, but if you trust him 100% then there is nothing to be done, yes ?

Really depends how you do it.

If you approach it with, say, this is inappropriate and it's really not good for the children, how can we work together to help her to understand that you have moved on and that she needs to as well, then that's not coming across as paranoid. That's acknowledging that it's not appropriate, that if the children happen to be or to become aware then it may be massively confusing for them, and that in order for her to be happy, she needs to move on with her life and perhaps consider finding someone herself, and move the relationship with you onto effective co-parenting.