do i want too much?

[dryroasted]

i get very annoyed and irritated with dh sometimes over various issues but also know that he can also be very helpful and loving.should i just accept these issues (after all there' only so much about a person you can change!) and be grateful for what i have?

His bad points are :

-very defensive if i'm annoyed with him and gets very shouty and sometimes says nasty things to me

• bit too accepting of things that aren't right (vfedup's post could easily have been mine!)
• can be very quiet /grumpy and doesn't keep in touch with old friends or make new ones , although happy to come out with my friends

good points are:

• does alot for dd,some night feeds etc, even in the week sometimes when he has work if i need to catch up on sleep
• gives me a massage most nights!
• does some of housework
• earns a good salary &not at all mean with money and happy for me not to go back to work
• up side of last of bad points is he doesn't down the pubs with the lads

be grateful for some opinions please!!

Are those even actually bad points? I'd get defensive if dw was annoyed with me, too. As for not making new friends or keeping up with old ones, he's obvioulsy happy with you or in his own company. I'm sure you'd complain if he started making new female friends.

In short, yes you want too much.