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I am left with no friends

6 replies

stablepony · 05/12/2013 21:52

I have never been one to have a large group of friends but I have always had a few close friends. When I was pregnant with DD four years ago I had three close friends who were a big part of my life but after splitting with DDs father I moved back home eight hours away to scotland as I needed the support of my family. I still speak with those friends but I only see them once a year, I miss them so much.
I don't have many friends in Scotland even after living here through my childhood and the four years ive been back.
I have a friend who ive known sinse childhood but she doesn't have children and we now have nothing in common and I work weekends so I never get asked to anything and she never wants to come round as she has so many other friends and a partner to go out with.
My partner has a close group of friends hes known most of his life and I find it really hard when he sees them and I'm stuck in the house with noone to talk to. I go to a few groups but never met anyone who I frequently talk to, we all sort of do our own thing. I have never become pally with anyone from DDs nursery either even after years of toddler groups. I just feel lost. I miss a good girly chat and a giggle. :(

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MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 05/12/2013 22:04

I had this issue (moved to be with partner). It takes a long time to make old friends. I have joined groups, make a huge effort with preschool parents, colleagues etc. After 8 years I have two friends who I think of as friends. It takes work and patience. You have to be the one that suggests things.

What about your partners friends/partners? None of them fun? Have everyone round for Xmas drinks or something.

Vijac · 05/12/2013 22:08

Poor you. I know that feeling even if I don't see a friend for a few days. Have you tried taking up a hobby of something you enjoy-sport, music, walking, art, volunteering etc. Also, don't be shy to ask people to go for a coffee etc. how about your hubby's friends? Hope you find some lovely new friends soon.

MisForMumNotMaid · 05/12/2013 22:11

But the friendships with your friends weren't based on being a mum of children of a similar age were they?

What about you what are your interests and hobbies beyond motherhood? Are there other interests like an evening class you could pursue thats about you, where you may meet people you have something (the topic of the evening class as a start) in common with.

I'm in a new area, not where DH or I grew up, fortunately I have family who've ended up living here. I'm trying to find one or two me things/ activities to occasionally step away from just being mum - so I may be projecting my own feelings here.

ishesingle · 06/12/2013 21:48

Is there a Ladies Circle near you? Ready made group of friends (18-45) and guaranteed night out once a fortnight. Smile

wispywoo1 · 06/12/2013 21:56

Last year I joined a website called city socialising to meet some new friends and I've made some really good friends due to the site. You should check it out

BIWI · 06/12/2013 21:57

Have you checked out your Mumsnet Local site? There could be lots of opportunities there to meet other women near you.

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