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To interfere or not to interfere?

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feelingorange · 05/12/2013 01:39

This question is about my sister and her husband. I've noticed some behaviour of hers that doesn't seem appropriate, but she hasn't really done anything wrong so I'm not sure whether to bring it up with her or not?

So, she's in her mid 30s and married to a man in his 40s. He's a really good husband and father, successful, and a really nice man. He isn't hideous looking or anything but isn't particularly attractive either and is obviously getting older. Sister, on the other hand, is gorgeous (before you accuse me, I admit I'm jealous!). She works out, dresses nicely, does hair and make up regularly, etc. She gets tons of attention, often from younger men. She clearly enjoys the attention. I wouldn't suspect her of cheating on BIL or anything, but she does flirt back and definitely doesn't discourage it.

I've seen it happen when she's with BIL and he doesn't seem amused. I bet it's very hurtful and think she should be more considerate.

I don't like getting involved in their relationship, though, so not sure if I should bother saying anything?

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Darkesteyes · 05/12/2013 01:44

OP You cant be sure what is going on between them or what isnt!

feelingorange · 05/12/2013 01:48

Darkesteyes that's my worry too. I don't know what's going on and that's why I'm hesitant to say anything.

On one hand, it could just be my sister being oblivious and inconsiderate (not the first time that has happened). So she might just need someone to stop and think about how she's behaving.

On the other hand, there could be something else going on and I don't think it would be right to get involved

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AnyFuckersfrogslegs35 · 05/12/2013 07:43

If she were my Dsis, I'd maybe casually drop a jokey ' doesn't he mind you doing that' if I seen her do with while with her Dh.

If he's not ok with it yet she's still doing it then she's being very disrespectful but it's really upto him to say something to her.

FeelingOrange · 08/12/2013 11:58

Yep I think I'll just leave it for now unless I see it happening again and then mention it to her. I guess she just enjoys the attention, there's nothing really wrong about that, just feel sorry for my BIL, he's a nice bloke

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