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Exh getting married again...

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keepyourroomtidy · 04/12/2013 21:55

...and I feel awful. She was ow and although I have expected it, it feels horrid. I would never go back but this hurts :(. I guess this feels more final than the divorce which was this year. Please cheer me up!

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Minime85 · 04/12/2013 21:58

I'm so sorry and can imagine how you must be feeling. you say u wouldn't go back so try and think of all the great ways your life is better for being without him and not having to put up with things Smile

FennCara · 04/12/2013 22:06

I would love to cheer you up but I'm not sure how! I am waiting for exHs next serious relationship to surface. I can't stand him, but it will hurt.

From what you say, I'm guessing you don't wish it was you. Try and celebrate the finality of it all, knowing it's never going to be you getting screwed over by him again. You're safe from all that. A pair of cheats are hardly going to be happy forever are they? Not that it even matters. Fill your life with things that matter Smile

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 04/12/2013 22:44

So they are making a go of it. Whether they can trust one another out of each other's sight is another matter! Marrying a mistress creates a vacancy as they say.

Do you have children together? If so he's going to be an ongoing presence in their lives but no longer a blight on yours. I bet since you split up you have surprised yourself by your own strength and courage. Lean on friends, embrace the new life you have.

itwillgetbettersoon · 04/12/2013 23:24

Donkeys that is so true about being a blight on them - I have never thought of it that way but you are right. In my situation me and the kids are moving on to new things but for STBXH and ow we are always there hanging on!!! Ha ha I say!

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keepyourroomtidy · 05/12/2013 07:07

Thanks everyone! I know I am better off without a cheat - will give me a push to move my own life forward. ??

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keepyourroomtidy · 05/12/2013 16:06

Thanks everyone! I know I am better off without a cheat - will give me a push to move my own life forward. ??

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flippingebay · 05/12/2013 16:11

It does fade, honestly, you start to feel better soon.

I left my abusive exh and still felt like shit when I found out he was getting remarried.

Take care of yourself and be nice to yourself too

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