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Your advice on getting a date!

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 03/12/2013 19:59

So I'm in my 30s and recently out of long relationship. Really want to start dating again & there's this guy I like but I only know him through his work. He is always very nice and friendly when I go in. I have zero experience of doing this and the dos and donts so please help!!! No contact details. So the options are:

A- Going in and making up excuses to continue to be a customer. Give him my number that way. All very non-committal and may go nowhere.

B- Blatantly ask him out for coffee

C- Ask him to go for coffee to talk about possibly helping me with something vaguely connected to his work

D- Going in about something related to his work and hinting that on Thursday night I'll be at such and such a place. Hint!

WWYD?!?!

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Turvytopsy · 04/12/2013 12:10

Sorry Snoopy hadn't read full thread. I think a Christmas card is a great idea. Maybe you could ask one of his colleagues if he has a partner as you would like to send them a card, he has been so helpful etc etc.

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 12:29

I've asked a friend who has said no to the card but says I should send an email to the shop addressed to him.

I think I'm gonna go with this!

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Norland · 04/12/2013 13:35

Or, you could say to him outright, '..you're nice, if you're single, you can buy me a drink' he's have to be prety thick not to get the message.

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 15:02

Yes but I don't want to keep going in there!

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 17:08

Oh I can't bring myself to write the email! It's just going to say let's meet up with something remotely businesslike/saucy suggested. A bit cheeky but fun.

It's better than going in and making a plonker of myself but once it's sent, it's sent! I'm not used to this! Help me out y'all!!

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 17:09

Another option could be to email the office and ask for his email...

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Norland · 04/12/2013 18:26

Making a plonker of yourself? Do as I suggested, if he 'likes' you, he'll buy you a drink or a coffee and go from there. Even if he doesn't 'like' you, he'll probably still buy you a tea/coffee.

If you ask him all doe-eyed and hopping from one foot to another, he might be put off but what's the worst of it? You've hinted you find him attractive and he says no? If he does, all you have to say is 'your loss' blow him a kiss and walk off with a smile.

Men are simple creatures, programmed to be so by mother nature. The vast majority, no matter how good-looking, respond to interest/attention from females in the same way.

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 20:00

Yeah but I can't do any of these things in his workplace in front of his boss/ coworkers!

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 20:03

Hence 'making a plonker of myself' trying to get a date out of him when I don't even know if he has a girlfriend!

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 04/12/2013 20:05

Also, we're not just going to go for a coffee there & then when I turn up at his work. That's why email was a good idea. Takes away awkwardness of swapping numbers in front of his workmates or whatever.

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NewBeginningsSnoopy · 05/12/2013 17:38

Ok so the plan is I'm going to go into his work next week and ask him to do a work-related favour which includes going for coffee with me :-D

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