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Unppreciated?

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sicily1921 · 02/12/2013 21:08

A few days ago I had a huge angry outburst at DH saying that he always criticizes me, sometimes it feels like all the time, everything I do (even though I work bloody hard at a part time job and with 2 DCs, I take on the majority of the work at home).

He said I am too sensitive about criticism and that he cannot say anything to me without me taking it too personally, he says I bicker too much with the DCs. My point was that as I have to do most of the 'work' with them and communication with them it sounds this way. He was even blaming me for our 11yr old DD storming off after a card game with me and her brother, as if an 11yr old girls silly tantrums are all my fault when I was encouraging them to have a nice game of cards. But no, apparently it was.

I said perhaps I would take criticism a bit better if I ever felt like I got any support or appreciation for what I do, the odd kind word or him asking the DCs to tidy their rooms or help me with tea would be nice!

Today I had got in late as had to meet DD at school as she had come out late and it was dark so I was late home making tea. Thinking he must be hungry I put the first part of the meal out while another bit had another 5-10 mins in oven and could be eaten when first part (home-made soup) was finished but he moaned because it wasn't all ready at once.

Should I have said 'fuck you' and tipped it on his head or just been my usual 'take it on the chin' self? Answers on a postcard please.

Totally fucked off MNetter

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Lweji · 02/12/2013 21:15

I wouldn't comment on the bickering part, as I wasn't there.

However, the soup thing deserved a fuck you and a soup bath, yes.
Or a tomorrow it's your turn to make tea. You're still on time for that one.

sicily1921 · 02/12/2013 21:36

Your a diplomat Lweji and no mistake. Rest assured he would be doing it if he were not at work. If I'd had complained to him in the same way he would have either lost his rag or sulked for days.

Seriously though, I do sometimes wonder why I bother as I'd probably get just the same level of appreciation (i.e,. zilch) if I did fuck all and watched ITV2 all day, and believe me, some days that is tempting....

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Lweji · 02/12/2013 21:51

You can still leave his dinner for him to make, as you're clearly not up to the job. Wink

cheapskatemum · 02/12/2013 21:56

Can you message me, sicily 1921? There's a thread elsewhere that might be of interest to you.

sicily1921 · 03/12/2013 09:04

Thank you cheap but how do I do that, when I clicked on 'Message Poster' it just shows the usual screen as if you are adding a message on normal thread, is this right? (sorry I am not very technical with this kind of thing!)

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