social worker - initial assessment

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Sorry for posting here. I have no idea where else it could go.

I asked for an assessment to be done by social services.
They are coming on thursday when the kids have finished school for an initial assessment.

Im just wondering what this is exactly?
Has anybody had any experience with initial assessments?

Glad the visit was positive. Your experiences sound similar to mine. Will your Ex show up demanding to see the kids do you think ?
Do you have a solicitor ? I would actually initiate court proceedings myself rather than live with the uncertainty of it all. The one word of caution I would give you though is that social services aren't always completely accurate about what may if may not happen with regards decisions made in family court. Is it the IDAP program they meant with regards him doing a course ? SW promised that Ex would be made to do that but they made him do a one different altogether.

I really have no idea at all what he will do, or how he will do it. Hes unpredictable to say the least.

I will be phoning my solicitor on monday to see about going for the residency order. She said the judge would probably go ahead arrange contact then. Which is why it was important to see SS beforehand.

So i will go the way of no contact until he has his head sorted. Be it abusive tendencies or mental health. There is something that is not right, and he has proved time and time again that he himself is his main priority.
So that definitely needs sorted before any contact can take place.

Im guessing that the judge would make arrangements for a contact centre though.
My therapist seems confident that the judge will listen to SS.

I am unsure of what the course for him is called.
I just know it was to learn about his own behaviour.

Update:
SW just phoned asking for further info. She also says that what i had wrote down was very alarming and concerning.
She is going to put in for a deeper assessment around my ex.

I dont know what this means. Anybody understand this a bit better than i do?
I am a little worried now thati have stayed for too long and now im going to be in trouble!

I think you should take this as a positive development. Clearly they areas worried about your ex as you are - that means they have taken you seriously and if he does anything, they will come down that much harder. Give them all the info they ask for, it shows that you are serious about protecting yourself and your DCs and they will look on that positively.

Thank you. That is reassuring! After i wrote it all down, it brought to light how bad everything actually was and im feeling so bad for allowing it.
I had a good talk with my therapist, and i understand now that it was exteme manipulation and control i was under.
Doesnt stop me feeling bad. But i cant allow it to affect me. Otherwise he is still winning!

SW is going to the school to speak to my dd tomorrow, to offer support and see what she needs. So that is good!

I think that by engaging with social services and getting help you are defeating him. I really, really do.