Me or my situation?

[IWishYouWould]

I need to be vague, so apologies in advance.

I have a dilema. Life has been very up and down this year. But recently I have come off AD's and found a new love for life. Raring to go and do things I haven't been able to. What is puzzling me is I don't know if I'm happy at home with DH anymore. I don't have anything in life to complain about we have all we need. I'm happy when I'm with friends. Just not sure if now I'm feeling better, I need my independence back and him to back off a bit (when ill I needed a lot if support). Or am I unhappy? DH is lovely, would do anything for me and Dc's. He does more than he needs to at home.

We are both control freaks, but that normally works well with mutual respect. The only area that is really making me is his arrogance. That has always been there and I wouldn't want to change him. Recently I just want to shout at him to stfu or walk out to get away from it. He has a huge ego and can get peoples backs up. But I normally reign him in with humour and honesty. I just don't understand why I can't deal with it now. It could be I'm still not well and need to be back on meds, but medication for being unhappy is not the right answer, I know that.
I think I just needed to write it down. Perhaps reading my own words will help.

Hiya sometimes when the people who love us most see us in pain they take over for all the right reasons at the time. When you are feeling better yourself they don't always back off. You need to talk to him in a rational manner. He may feel hurt as he will probably feel he has been trying to protect you but it sounds like you need to reset the balance in your relationship.

I think he annoys you because he is annoying. Arrogance and egotistical behaviour is wearing and not particularly nice. It isn't you and you shouldn't have to reign him in or manage his behaviour. Sounds like you are on eggshells a bit around him.

Although it's a short thread I thought it best to update. The problem was absolutely me. I was not coping well and my tolerance was low. After addressing my feelings properly and talking to DH things have settled massively. He's been a great help and I'm happier that I know what was wrong.