Am i overreacting - dp apparently dreaming about female friend and telling her!

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Read a text convo on dp's phone to a female friend of his who I don't really know - she'd sent him an innocent enough message and he replied that he'd had a dream about her recently. She asked what had happened and he didn't go into details but pretty obviously hinted that it had been a sexy dream. I was shocked and a bit upset. I know he can't help what he dreams about but why would he tell her? I told him it was creepy and really inappropriate but he says he just thought it was funny and doesn't understand why i'm upset.

Am I being silly or is this really out of order?

I don't normally worry or feel the need to check up on him - he asked me to check his phone looking for something else which is how i saw it.

I'd definitely take that as him testing the waters and letting her know he thinks of her in that way. So yes, a definite come on technique.

I keep having sex dreams in my pregnancy and I tell my girlfriends if it's someone we all know, as it's funny. However, the joke wouldn't extend to telling the guy. That would only cross my mind if I wanted him to know I saw him in that way (out of pregnancy obvious-that would even be too weird for mn).

I'm not really sure what to advise as I would be livid in your situation. I'd just find it all too flirty and inappropriate, not to mention disrespectful.
It would irk me even more if he still pretended not to see it from that perspective. He maybe didn't think like that when he sent it (although I can't see how he wouldn't) but after you've explained it to him, there's no escaping it.

I had an old boss who only started to come on to me when his wife was pregnant. What happens to some people?!! It's meant to be a experience you share as a couple. It's not a time for flirting and talking sex with other people!