Wtf would happen if I...

[Tash28]

Decided that I needed a rest and just fucked off all other jobs relating to childcare and house. Dick head!!!!

Do it and find out!

I did just that the other day! Been waited on hand and foot ever since with constant praise for how amazing am! (Not interested in the praise part as I've know this all along )

I'd love to but I don't trust him not to lose his temper when the baby has a hissy fit, not that he'd do anything but he gets snappy and I've already told him to piss of speaking to my child like that! I understand the frustration but I'm an adult and don't take it out on the baby who isn't doing anything maliciously.

He's such a prick. I literally think he thinks I should suck him off for doing the sterilising and prepping the bottles every night.

Sorry for getting crass, it's what happens when I seethe!

Also we're at the stage where if I don't get prepped for the next day then I don't get the chance to do anything so if he doesn't then I just need to because I'm only doing myself a disservice when he's at work anyway and not affected anyway.

Seethe away. Maybe give him a explicit list of what he needs to do in relations to DC. That's what my OH always says to me, 'just tell me what you want me to do and I'll do it, I can't second guess you,' blah blah. He actually says he just wants instructions. Not with everything of course, he isn't a mindless idiot! just the day to day boring domestic things that need doing. I do get annoyed sometimes, that I have to spell things out but he does his fair share and when I ask him to do tasks for DC's and so on he will do them whenever I ask as long as I've given clear concise instructions.

Is your OH just being a dick or are you tired with new DC and communication has completely broken down? When our 2nd DC was born the sleep deprivation made me murderous and intolerant of any of his 'flaws' and perceived incompetence

It's the latter. I know that I'm highly intolerant now but I feel like I just haven't got the patience to stretch to his lazy arse flaws, just put your shit back and tidy up after yourself. He's also a dick. He's not got dressed all day. Ds is 6 months.

I think what usually works best is to have usual tasks assigned to one or the other. That way there are no excuses. Then you can adapt daily as necessary.

I agree. Both parties would have to stick to it though and he wouldn't, he sees it as if it doesn't bother him (such as cleaning) then why do it.

So, what would bother him? Food? Clothes?

I don't know. We go round in circles. I might just go on an all out I sort myself out you sort yours out, but then there's still be the dirty dishes for me to stare at all day as well as his dirty washing. Wits bloody end.

Or there's the old: if you don't contribute at home, and you're adding only more work you're not useful and you should leave.

Do you work?

Yes but I'm still on mat leave at the minute. I think this may be part of the problem. I think he thinks that it's a piece of piss for me everyday. I don't know why, I have a mental breakdown at least fortnightly!

Even so, pick up after yourself. And yes, I'm starting to think there's no other option for me.