Really hurt by friend

[Littlecurrentbun]

I wish I didn't give a shit but I do.
My friend and I met about seven years ago. Always went out together. She was bridesmaid for me. While going out with my dh and in our first year of marriage we often went put together too as went out in a group.

I got pregnant and she visited once. She met a man and that was it. Now I thought fair enough. Her hair salon is on my road and yet she never called on for tea, just text. We never fell out or anything. When baby was born she arrived with expensive gifts. That was two months ago. We text very rarely now but I am going to her birthday pArty soon.

I see on Facebook she has split will man as of last week. She text a general text this morning that she isn't doing presents this year. She is right to do that and I am relieved.. Have enough to buy.

But she never asked how was the baby or mentioned her boyfriend. I just don't understand what has caused this drift. There is an age g between us. My husband doesn't drink whereas she likes a party so unless I am too dull now .. I sent a friendly text back. I guess I have to accept it is over. Pity though.

You are still.friends but I think you have grown apart. It happens a lot. Friendships change all the time. Don't be down about it but I know it's hard. Can you concentrate on making some new friends?

Thank you under.. I really like her, we had a lot of fun and believe me I understand what it is like to be out with couples when you just want a few drinks and a snog as I was there before.

I have joined a mother and baby group and few chatty girls at it and my sister in law is a good friend to me. It is hard though. I will go to her party on my own and maybe the girly night will do good.

Yep had same thing happen to me once I hadn't daughter and she met a man at the same time. She instantaneously dropped me with an excuse and I never heard from her again. That was a year ago. I now choose the people around me very carefully. I found that people expect everything give u nothing. So now I'm trying to find new friends. I must say that I'm very happy!!!

yes I think as someone has said you have now grown apart.
keep on with the toddler groups maybe try more than one in your area to widen your network and friendships maybe even try local mums net meet ups. I think with life some friendships just fizzle out because people move on and you just don't have the same bond anymore. None of my bridesmaids invited me to their wedding because we have all moved on and live far away. I think in these situations we just have to focus on what is really important in the here and now. Xx

It's been a week since they split up, she's probably been worried about the relationship and how to sort it. Why not call her (like in the old days) and invite her round for some tea and sympathy?

I have always text, call in anytime at the end of it. I actually feel a bit awkward about going to the party. It is not in our home town but an hour away and everyone is booked into a hotel. She lives with parents so said she wanted a proper night out and have the boyfriend stay with her as cant at home.

I will go I think but I am half tempted to not go when she lives ten mins away and we don't meet???

At least I have my little baby. Plenty of time to meet friends again. I can't help but feel a bit sad though.

Yeah, I, 'mourned' the end of a friendship I had with a girl I was friends with at college years ago. I just put it down to the fact that she got married and had her first baby whilst I was still single.

Even though we remained friends when I got married I got slowly nudged to the edge of her social circle. We saw less and less of each other and when I phoned her she was becoming increasing nonsensical and our conversation had just become a question and short answer session. She 'forgot' my birthday one year, so, I returned the favour.

I didn't realise that you can break up with a friend similar to ending a relationship.