Facebook cheating and God knows what else.

[Everybodyhurts]

Nc'd for this so as not to out myself. I'm very upset and in need of advice please.
What would you do if you found sexually explicit private messages on your boyfriend's Facebook that he had sent to other women?

Sound advice. Thanks.
That was me last time.
I wasn't a sahm but I was married with kids and a house.
I've been through it that way with all the crap to sort out, house sale and the divorce.
This is supposed to be a happy new beginning.

Oh gosh, here was me thinking you were some wet behind the ears slip of a thing.
What I say still stands, find a new beginning with somebody worthy of you. If you managed with all that crap to deal with, you should be able to do it now.
I'm not usually an advocate of counselling, but it might be worth getting some assistance with whatever it is that is stopping you from being confident to tell him to sling his hook.

channel some Cheryl Cole

I'm not sure we should be advocating ABH.

Do to him as he's done by you: with as little respect or sensitivity as possible. Simultaneously: change FB relationship status to single, post publicly about having caught the wretch cheating, send a message to the partners of the women he's cheating with (I'd certainly want to know), and, after a couple of minutes delay (which I recommend you spend doing a happy dance at being away from an utter ringpiece) send him a mesage in the form suggested by Diagonally above.

If you feel up to it, fuck a few of his best mates, such of them as are single and reasonably presentable.

You have two choices. Stay with a cheating pathetic excuse for a man or finish this mess and spend some time getting some self esteem.

If you don't know how to finish a relationship then read the good advice you have been given.

You owe him nothing and should just end it with a text if you don't feel you can call him.

Next time, don't look to a man to give you a "happy beginning" or ending. Look to yourself to do that.

And the point is, he did want to write those messages but not to you, unfortunately.

Set an example to your children and finish this mess. Christmas coming is not an excuse to stay. When I was 22 I had gone back to my ex and knew before Christmas I didn't want to be with him any more but didn't want to ruin his day so finished it on Boxing Day. I was young, you aren't as young and it is weeks away. Finish it now and start building your self esteem.

I've been in relationships which I have found easy to finish, and some which were very hard to end.

What do you think is holding you back?

Fear of being alone? Letting go of a dream? Hoping he'll miraculously morph into the person you hoped he was? Or who he (pretended) to be at the beginning?

Do you think he'll make it difficult for you to end it?

I was going to advise that you just dump him by telling him he is shit in bed and gives you the creeps, and not to mention the fact that you know he has cheated.

Then I read kisses advice above and that is waaaay better than mine.

Either way, FLUSH!

Oh, and it isn't you. It's them. You are not responsible for other peoples behaviour. You just aren't that powerful. None of us are.