Help - STI tests

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I need a hand to hold

After discovering at least 3 text 'relationships' on my husbands phone over the last 10 years, it's struck me that if he slept with them (he'll never admit it but I'm pretty sure he did) there's a chance he could have passed something on to me.

So I'm just off on a trip to the doctors to get checked for everything. I have no idea even what 'everything' is but I asked for the full hit.

I've been trying not to think about it all day but starting to seriously stress now.

Anyone else done this?

I haven't but know those who have. It's ok. Cept if you are a bloke
Hope it went well. At least ok and the results are all negative.
Are you making your DH use condoms now? And explaining to him why? Screenshot the texts too.

dont worry.. just see it as going to the dentist.. but a check up for your bits instead.

Skip the doctors and go to the clinic.. get a full screen unless you're on your way.. they are the best people to check you out.

Sorry you are having to get tested for those reasons - but actually getting tested is nothing to be scared of at all, they won't make you embarrassed and it's not even particularly physically uncomfortable. Good luck with the results, and remember most things are treatable anyway.

It's fine. No worse for a man than a woman! Why would it be? Urethral swabs aren't fun for either sex but they aren't painful.

Sorry you are in this situation. Don't go to the GP. Go to your local GU medicine/sexual health clinic. They are much better set up to do the tests you need and will get the results back much more quickly.

These days you don't even have to have an internal examination if you don't want to. Most clinics will offer you the option of doing your own swabs (much easier than it sounds.... You literally just pop a swab inside yourself and give it a little wiggle around). Theyll test for chlamydia, gonorrhoea and trichomonas (all easily cured with antibiotics). In addition to that they'll offer you a blood test (for HIV & Syphillis.... Both completely treatable in this day and age).

Good luck.

Oh, and in response to the previous posters urethral swabs are very rarely done anymore. For an asymptomatic screen men can just pee in a pot (no swabs needed) and women can self swab just inside the vagina.

You can do them by post near me. Google it? Sti postal kits?

The NHS send you a text if it's clear, and ring if there's an issue. All you do is put your wee in the post.

Really nothing to get worried about OP!

Thanks everyone, just in waiting room now. Yes it is the gum clinic, not the drs. H & I have separated and will shortly be divorced. I just want to make a clean start & make sure he's not given me anything.

There are 2 other completely normal people in the waiting room

honestly its nothing. Sort of thing you do before ditching condoms with a new partner.

Once it's done its done. Good luck.

The health advice is to do what you're doing at the end of any relationship, so don't feel like you are doing anything other than the routine..... And the results will come soon enough.

It's a sensible and responsible thing that you are doing. I've done it myself in a similar situation - I just needed to know, for sure, before I could think about moving on myself. It's fine.

Ok back now, it was all fine

A doctor asked me a load of questions, such as

Did I have any symptoms?
Have I had sex with anyone abroad?
Have I had sex with a female?
Do I use drugs?
Have I ever injected myself?
Am I a blood donor?
When was LMP and when did I last have sex?

Then a nurse explained what I'd be tested for, and she did the blood test. She then gave me two swabs, and I did those myself which was much more civilised than I was expecting.

The results will be back in about 2 weeks. If they're clear I'll just get a text, if not I'll get a phone call asking me to go back.

Job done feel better now. Thanks for the hand holding. Hope this helps anyone who's thinking of going.

Glad it was fine. Good luck with your fresh start op.

Erikicur - for the same reason the term man- flu was invented. A male friend used to take the next day of work. Thats why