Sex

[malinaaa]

Sorry to be so blunt, but that's exactly what my issue is about!

I posted on here a few weeks ago about my situation. I'm 30, divorced, and quite recently started to see a new man that I met through my work. So, things have been going very well and now it's moved beyond just spending time together and getting more physical. So that is great on one hand, I really do want it to happen...but I'm so nervous at the same time!

I got married when I was really young and actually met my husband when I was a teenager, so he is the only man I've had any experience with in anything - relationships, love, sex...the idea of being with someone else scares me, even though this man is very sweet and patient.

Then my other problem is that I don't feel so good physically. My divorce (1 year ago now) was very stressful. In this year, I started having really bad sleeping problems, losing appetite, etc so because of that I lost so much weight and went through many periods of feeling weak and dizzy. I sometimes look at myself in the mirror and think that all that's left of me is bones. It's sad because I used to be so good and healthy. Obviously I'm working on getting back to how I used to be, but it's difficult to imagine being attractive to a man when I don't really feel good physically.

You gave me good advice last time, I want to go through with this but I'm so scared!

sometimes the solution is to stop thinking and just act on impulse, aided by some wine! I'm serious. If you really want this, and presumable he showed you that he fancies you a lot, it's a case of getting the desire being stronger than your fears.
If you don't really fancy him, or need more time to be sure, then wait until you really CAN'T wait to jump him.

Hey, you answered my thread a few times, so I wanted to reply to yours too haha
All I can say is that if things are getting physical, he finds you attractive, so no need to worry about that! Men are pretty simple when it comes to that stuff

p.s. heck, I'd love to be in this nervous/exciting situation again but can't meet the right man, so be happy that you 've met someone you want (mutually) to sleep with, both single too!

The sex will make you feel good physically, if he's a nice guy.

Apart from the sex, have you been to the dr? You might be anaemic.

Sex is best when you din't think about other stuff. Just focus on the pleasure his touch brings, and allow yourself to really feel sexy.

Is there a time of the month when you feel more up for it? It might not be useful if you then feel more pressure around that time.. But it might be easier to lose yourself when your hormones are helping you!

Charcoalbriquettes - I am really lucky, I work in hospitals, so I have seen a very good doctor! You're completely right, I do have anaemia, but other problems too like being underweight, dehydration, and so on. I'm trying hard to make a regular eating and sleeping schedule so it's getting a lot better.

beaglesaresweet - the is a good suggestion, maybe that's what I'll have to do. I really do fancy him a lot and it is very exciting!! When he first asked me out, I was also really nervous and wanted to back out, but I just made myself do it and I'm really glad I did!

Artsylady - Nice to see you here . I hope you're right!

Ultimately, you don't have to do anything you don't want to. Doesn't matter if your fears are real or imagined, rational or irrational. If it's the right partner and they are kind and sensitive, you may experience a few nerves but you won't have too many doubts.

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Before this thread is deleted, I just wanted to thank you for your advice

I don't want to give TMI, but I listened to what you said and it's going pretty well so far haha

great to hear that, OP!